Oral Sex: How to Eat her Out and Make her Squirm

I love making a woman cum, it feels phenomenal to have that power of having a woman give herself to you during orgasm. To release herself and lose control of her body to the most pleasurable natural experience humans have. I love going down on a woman, tasting her, smelling her, and feeling her with my tongue. Perhaps I am weird but I’m a selfless lover, I’d rather give head than get head (part of it is because women rarely know how to give a good blow job, sorry ladies).

Note: I still believe a woman’s orgasm is purely cerebral and if you combine these techniques with mental stimulation you can be Eros a god of lust, love, and intercourse.

I can’t say I eat pussy the best but I can lick a kitten and I can make it purr for extended periods of time. I’ve never had anyone complain about my technique because my techniques are largely based on their response (positive means continue negative means move away). I want to say that it takes a minute to notice her positive reaction but look for arousal when it comes to her positive reaction, look for discomfort when it comes to negative reaction.

Sex GifThe key to being a great sexual partner is to respond to what she likes and dislikes accordingly, notice whether she likes when you lick all the way up and down, or notice when she likes you lick shorter. You have to figure out what she likes because a woman flows with her mood, even within the same sexual session she may prefer one action or the other, so make sure you realize your goal as a good lover is to fulfill her desire each moment which may be different moment to moment.

Note: There are many entire books written about going down on a woman so understand I can’t cover nearly enough in a blog.

I was going to post some pictures but that will make this pretty R-rated. I want you guys to go familiarize yourself with the anatomy of a woman. You should know where the clit is, where the “g-spot” is, where the anus is, what the labia is, if you want to be good at eating pussy you need to know your way around it. Go study it, if someone asks why, tell them you need to learn to please a woman properly, if you are young and your parents catch ya you’re a curious teenager.

Here is a solid write up I found for you guys on it with some solid stimulation techniques as well.

Female Anatomy Guide

Getting “Down” to it

delhi-belly-best-of-2011Ok when it comes down to going down on a woman it isn’t so much what you do but how you do it. It’s not just licking a clit that makes a woman cum, it’s really how you do it. This includes how you start. When I start going down on a woman I don’t go straight for the source, you need a little tease before you start to please.

Starting out Teasing

oral sex teasingWhen I start going down on a woman I kiss every part of her but not her clit, I breath on it, I even get within centimeters of it but I don’t touch it. I build it up, I make the touch more worth it. I make it as sensory orientated as I can this means I start out kissing her thigh or biting her thigh. Yes I nibble a woman’s thigh or bite, it all depends on the woman and what she wants. Before I get to it though it is wet and ready, I don’t tease for hours but I make sure she is ready for that touch. I want to touch to be needed by the time I get to her pussy.

I want a lesson on oral sex from a lesbian, home field advantage and all, but all I got is the advice of one. Here is a quote from someone with home field advantage, this is a quote from Txacoli,  a woman who I participated in a conversation about oral sex on a forum:

I start by smelling it and just teasing her with my nose. Then I’ll do a couple of gentle, soft tongue moves from the center towards the clit, with the mouth wrapped around also using the breath to create some pleasant sensations, increasing the intensity with each stroke, I’ll take my time with this, it’s very arousing for me and my partner usually.

Here is another quote on her nose and breath techniques:

… what I do if a girl needs more stimulation, is that I run my nose down her clit until my tongue is in her vagina, then up again, running the nose up the clit, followed by the tongue, so she gets a lot of surface in one movement.

… in the beginning when I still tease her, I’ll put my mouth around the clit and breathe out warm air, followed by the tongue, it’s usually very pleasant. Later when it gets heavier, you can use the breath in and breath out while in close contact with the pussy and add a growl of satisfaction hehe, I don’t think it provides some sort of crazy stimulus, but I think it’s very erotic, well to me it is at least.

When I start out actually stimulating a woman I start very gentle. The clit is a very sensitive area and you can start to heavy and hurt a woman, it’s very important to realize the clit has the most nerve endings of any part of the female body. I prefer to start with the tip of my tongue, so as not to be too aggressive. If I had been stimulating her with my hand already (normally I start out by making a woman cum through her clothes), I can start off a little more direct.

Note:  A woman has 8000 nerve endings, that tiny area has that much stimulation so be careful early to not be too aggressive (some women have sensitive clits during the entire experience). The uncircumcised penis has only 4000, but the foreskin of a penis has up to 20,000 nerve endings in it. That said look at how much bigger more skin it covers and there really is only 3 times as much nerve endings.  Women are far more sensitive to their clit then men to their penis.

Early on if a woman isn’t fully aroused(one of the reasons I make sure to warm her up) you will need to pull the hood above her clit back to start licking it.

Different Strokes for Different Folks

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There are many, many, different ways to stimulate a woman with your tongue, here are a few ideas but keep in mind as I said each moment is different and thus requires a different tool.

-Licking all the way up the clit

-Gently licking the clit with the tip of your tongue

-Move your tongue along the out skirts of her clit teasing it

-Move your tongue in a circular pattern on her clit

-Lick just a little part of her clit

-Wider tongue strokes

-Gentler tongue strokes

-Aggressive tongue strokes

– I will pull up on the area straddling the clit (pelvic bone) and pull the labia up with my fingers while licking her clit. This is a two handed technique for me since I am almost always stimulating their G-spot.

These are ideas that work and I have used all of them even during the same session, basically you use your imagination.

Multiple forms of Stimulation

sexual tensionWomen are very sensual, very sexual, very beautiful creatures, they are amazing, they love intimacy, they love touch during sex. They love multiple forms of stimulation. Men have a problem, we have a hard time doing two things at once we are focused on one task at a time, go on try rubbing your belly and patting your head. Girls were always better at it than boys in school.

When I start eating a woman one my hands are everywhere. I grip their hips, grab their throat, grab their breasts, scratch their midsection, my hand moves around, they don’t stay still. When I find something a woman likes I stick with it but I move away here and there to a different erotic zone so that me stimulating that area doesn’t “get old.” Keeping things a little spontaneous is key. There is a point when you get a woman to a point where she is towards climax and you shouldn’t stop stimulating that area at this point, if she is close to climax or is cumming do not stop that stimulation or you can stop her from orgasm.

G-Spot Stimulation

When I eat a woman I also almost always stimulate the g-spot. You use your finger rubbing it at a speed that seems to please her most (though I do alternate a bit teasing early on). A lot of woman need both the g-spot and the clit licking but you should get proficient at making a woman cum from either clit or g-spot orgasm. If you get a woman going you can alternate orgasms, between g-spot and clitoral stimulated orgasm.

Note: There is speculation that the clit and g-spot are two different orgasms and I’d have to agree. This means you can give a woman two types of orgasm at once, boy don’t they get lucky.

When you stimulate the g-spot just like anything else you need to find a pace that stimulates her which means making sure to pay attention to positive and negative reactions and respond accordingly.

Fun Fact

A woman has a higher pain threshold at orgasm due to G-spot stimulation quote:

Whipple’s research has suggested that the sensitive G-spot has a pain-blocking function during labor; when the baby’s head is stretching out the vaginal walls, it might be advantageous to have a little relief. Her studies have found that when pressure is applied to the G-spot, a woman’s pain threshold shoots up 47 percent. Link

At Orgasm

Most of the time when I am going down on a woman I have mental things going on where I tell her to focus on the sensation or how good it feels. So I continue to stimulate at orgasm, because she is only focused on the sensation so she releases when climax comes about or when I tell her to. If you aren’t sure when a woman is about to cum you can read this.


biting woman's thighOh man biting, I don’t like to get bit, it’s not about the pain for me. I don’t necessarily prefer biting women but during sex at orgasm there is often that point where they enjoy more stimulation. Biting is a small pain but as shown a woman’s pain threshold is higher during g-spot stimulation. If a woman likes when you bite, you can bite their thigh while you rub their clit with my thumb, and simultaneously stimulate their g-spot with your finger at orgasm. It works well and I’ve made women cum very hard with it.

A Technique I’ve never Used

I’ve never tried this technique (mainly because I forgot about it) but this sounds like an interesting thought.

Here is another quote from Txacoli:

Now, when I sense she is going to come I do the following. Usually before she comes, you can notice her clitoris will become smaller, it actually goes inwards a bit and then comes back out when she orgasms. When I feel it going inwards, it’s sure sign she’s coming, at this point I will stop producing any movement with my tongue because it can screw up the whole thing if you get the rhythm wrong and diminish her orgasm. If she wasn’t holding your head before, she will be now, she can’t help herself. I’ll just put my tongue out softly and let her work the rhythm, since during the orgasm the rhythm changes too, especially towards the last bit of the orgasm and in my opinion the best bit, usually she will be making some really slow movements with her hips.

I actually love the concept of it. I want to try it but as I said my technique is mind focused and I have them focus on stimulation so if I stop stimulating they won’t come to orgasm.

Some Last Advice from Txacoli:

Some general tips for the beginners. Don’t lick pussy porn style, it’s not good. Don’t spread her labia with your hands and work the clit with a pointy tongue with your mouth away from her pussy, it’s useless at best and painful at worst. Always make sure your mouth is where your tongue is and you adjust the tongue rigidness to the girl in question. If in doubt, just pretend you are making out with her.

Hope you guys enjoy! Happy Eating!

I would love for there to be more posts and question added to this Please Please add more info. I’d love for more info to be spread. Info is free for the world, spread it!

Hey guys Lots and LOTs more information has come out since this article, Check out a couple:

My Favorite 13 favorite Moves to make on a Woman

The Biggest Mistakes we Make When Seducing Women



  1. Wish more guys would google stuff like this, I think it very important that I know how to please a man and have done my fair share of research into how to do that so I think it only right that a guy does the same for me. Yet I’m pretty sure every guy I’ve ‘encountered’ in that respect is just too stubborn and arrogant to ever believe they could be doing something wrong- or more commonly could be doing something MORE right.

    This coming from a 20 year old female who has only ever had orgasms at the result of myself or my trusty bullet *weep*. I’m pretty sure at this point I will marry the first man to make me cum!

    • Thank you for your feedback Bulletlover 🙂

      Sad, yeah most men aren’t very proficient at sex, let alone oral sex. For more than a few months I’ve been meaning to write up a “how-to coach sex” article, I’ll try and get it up for you. Basically how to redirect someone while in the moment without being offensive or mean. Most men have zero tact when it comes to asking to do something differently. Most women have no clue how to be nice and get a guy to change what he is doing without him getting defensive.

      It’s sad how many young women I come across who live orgasm free lives(at least from the standpoint that the only person giving them orgasms in their life is their self). Most men think they are so amazing at sex and one of the big problems with it is women thinking they’ll hurt our ego, obviously it sucks but egos aren’t a good thing anyways. Don’t lie to a guy about him being a sex god (he’s going to find out he’s not anyways) or you’ll just perpetuate the cycle of some other poor women lacking sexual satisfaction. You just need to find a tactful way to say I love how much you enjoy pleasing me but this feels even better for me. Giving him love for his effort but letting him know how you enjoy something done differently more.

      You know it is funny that you said you wish more guys would research this stuff, this is far and away my most hit article, which to me is somewhat insulting because I know so much more on other topics lol. In fact while I’m very proficient in this area and have received a lot of compliments I would much rather have some of my other stuff receive more attention as I’m far more proficient with body language and courtship in general.

      I’m sure that you’ll be a smart enough girl to figure out when your attachment is sexual and when it isn’t. Trust me there are some guys out there that are phenomenal lovers, some require some training, and of course you got men who never learn.

      Peace and Love,


    • That’s funny every woman i’ve slept with hasn’t satisfied me. Apparently, from the feedback i get from my partners i’ve made every woman i’ve slept with had at least 1 orgasm. I love the feeling of having her vibrate and squirm on my fingers. I suggest you look for a guy that would rather please his partner than himself.

    • I’d agree depending on the woman. Everything is dependent on the woman you are dealing with, everyone has their own personal favorite action, you can’t just say one person loves this or that and that is the only way to do things for the rest of women. Oral sex should reactive, react to what seems to be stimulating her best. Honestly one of my favorite things to do is to bite her thigh at the point of orgasm(or right before more specifically) while stimulating both her g-spot with my finger and clit with my thumb, this is a much better experience then limiting her orgasm to one area of stimulation. In my experiences women LOVE it far more than just lightly sucking on the clit by it’s self.

      Peace and Love,


  2. The teasing and rubbing around and gently on the clit and labia – I need for a long time to get warmed up. Kiss and suck on breasts a little, kiss neck and ears and mouth. Probably 15 min to 30 minutes. Ok to start this while watching a movie. Act like you are in no hurry – like you could hold out all night. Keep doing until the girl starts pulling you toward her and kissing you and giving you signs that she wants to move on pretty bad. Kind of get her to the point she wants to beg for it. Sucking on clit from time to time feels good. Keep just teasing by lightly rubbling on area surrounding clit every once in awhile. Slowly work up to fast up and down rubbing, alternating between rubbing on and right next to clit with short breaks of slow rubbing (use just one finger for this up and down rubbing). Put fingers in vagina and rub and press on gspot (inside top; under clit) a little from time to time, like a “come here” motion with your finger. Get faster and faster with the up and down rubbing on and next to clit each time you go back to the fast rubbing. When rubbing keep your finger mostly rigid and as you get faster rub in long strokes so that the tips of your fingers hit the bottom part of the opening of the vagina each time you go down and the part of your finger that is closest to your palm is on clit on the “down” part of the rub. Just before she is about to cum (ask her to tell you if you don’t know), stop rubbing the clit and put one or two fingers inside her vagina and rub her gspot. I will cum during the really fast up and down rubbing. To make her cum during intercourse, wait until after you’ve delayed her orgasm with your finger for 2 or 3 times and she has been moaning in pleasure and or breathing hard and maybe sort of suspends her breathing a little from time to time when she’s about to come. Then put penis in vagina or anus from behind her. Fuck her for a short time to get yourself worked up then reach around and start rubbing her clit up and down – work up pretty quickly to rubbing it fast while you are still fucking her. That should cause an explosive orgasm. To make her cum with your mouth do the foreplay and finger rubbing etc, get her close to orgasm, then –suck– her clit while at the same time using a finger to rub up and down and press a little on the area below the clit and just in to the vagina, and then put finger all the way inside and press and pump on her gspot. That’ll do it. BTW, circular motions around my clit doesn’t do anything for me, and I can’t cum with just licking clit – it has to be sucking.

    • Wow! Nice input thank you Candi, I appreciate it!

      Every woman is different, some women love when you do circular motions, and some hate it.

      Every move is really even mood orientated, a woman early in sex may hate one thing as she is not as aroused on the other hand when she is fully around (your 15-30 minutes in) the flood gates open and the context of everything is different.

      The most responsible thing you can do as a sexual partner is be a responsive partner, react to what they do or don’t like every woman is different. Saying “That’ll do it” to end kind of puts you in the same boat as every other woman, and not all women like the same thing, some women love cervix stimulation and some find it painful. It’s up to both parties to react to each other and have phenomenal sex. Some women love anal, some are repulsed by it.

      Always react to your sexual partner as they are the only one that matters at the moment.

      Peace and Love,


  3. Very interesting article. I’m amazed a bloke has written something some so concise and comprehensive, and more importantly…that women agree with. I don’t consider myself a selfish lover. My wife tells her friends I’m a giver; I suppose that’s a compliment. I’ll take it as one.

    My wife (married for twenty years) and me still have great sex and oral is as good as the rest for us. She likes me to lick around her labia first and do figure of 8 motions with my tongue around her clitoris. After a minute or so I’ll stick my tongue inside her and f*** her with my tongue while my fingers gently tweaks her nipples. A minute or so later I’ll go back to licking her labia and then make my way in to vagina again with my tongue thrustung it in and out. Next I slowly flatten my tongue and gently lick her clitoris with the top and bottom of my tongue in and up and down, sliding motion.

    When she’s near coming, I’ll take my penis and gently stick the tip of it (top 7 inches…just kidding) about a centimetre or so in to her vagina. At the same time I’ll lick her nipple and kiss her around her neck and ears while gently and slowly popping the tip of my penis inside and out of her. Finally. I’ll kiss her properly (tongues) and then thrust myself deep inside her.

    When she’s about come, I quickly but gently pull out and start licking out her vagina, and sucking on her clit in an up and down motion with the flat of my tongue. As soon as shes’ come I mop it all up with my mouth until she’s ready for number two.

    I can only manage one orgasm every two hours, but when my lady’s in the mood she’ll have two orgasms every session. The most she’s managed in one session of 3.5 hours, is four. Two or three are very regular and more manageable for me. We’ve rarely ever had sex without her having at least the one orgasm.

    I feel spoiled and blessed to have a woman who gives and loves to receive. I also cannot for the life of me imagine why so so many men haven’t or won’t go down on their woman. I absolutely love it, and it adds an extra special dimension to the intimacy and thrill of loving sex.

    I thought I know it all about cunnilingus (horrible name btw) but it really helps to read guys and girls tips on technique and ettiquette, when it comes to oralling opur gals. Still not as good as me though;).

    Thanks for the article, I’ll be sure to read your others. Compelling reading, well done.

  4. When I go down on my lady, she is already wet, waiting for what she knows is on the way. First of all, I love getting into kissing her deeply for a little while because, we both enjoy passionate kissing. Then, I caress her breast and nipples, till they get hard, moving on down she has a belly- button piercing where, I spend time licking and flicking it with my tongue. As I get to her waist, I move slightly to the side of her clit, where she feels my hot breath but doesnt get any attention. I go down as far as above the knee. When moving back up going to her clit, I only beah lightly on all her wettnss.Then I hoover over her clit, where she is sometimes begging me to suck her clit as hard as I can. I instead give her a few light touch licks. Plenty times alredy at this point I feel her skin is tingling. Then,, I lick her left and right,up and down and in circles. I know when she orgasms because she raises her but and squeezes my head between her legs at this point Im sucking her clit an wont let go till her body is totally relaxed. Dont ever let her clit go when she is bucking and moaning and trembling, because she enjoys all of what your doing. If you really get her wound up ,if yall been apart a while she can get violent, with her legs and hands holding you into her clit. I once was proud to wear a black eye as she climaxed, she kneed me in the eye but didnt realize it till she calmned down. You can own your woman to the point of never having to ask for sex, it you are a selfless lover to all her needs first……J

  5. Is it possible to stimulate the gspot by licking it? I can’t reach it with my tounge, is there a certain way to do it with your tounge and not your fingers…i keep hearing about it but everything I read online about it is saying its pretty much impossible with the tounge.