Not to long ago I got asked about day game… so here is a decent lil step by step guide.

Go for the Hook

Day game is pretty simple imo, you need a hook. That is the key to starting a conversation. Now because you need a hook you need the opening to be interesting to THEM, not just you, obviously your genuine interest also helps because it can be very contagious.

Body Language

Good Body Language is very important (most important aspect of game is nonverbal) when you approach a girl you don’t want to be too dominant but you also don’t want to be too much of a bitch(if you know what I mean). You want to approach her with confident body language but also nonthreatening body language: open palms, neutral angle, let her see you coming, slightly turned head, etc. are all examples of nonthreatening body language.

Link to My Alpha video

My How to get Laid Outline

Oh k my structure to getting laid is very simple: Build Attraction, Connection, and Sexual Tension.

Building attraction is something you do with your body language and how you take care of yourself, but also assuming you are attractive (mindset).

Connection is just your ability to build rapport with someone, the ability for you to talk to a woman and get her to admit something she would have never admit to even her best friend (as an example). This is the meat of Day game, this is how you get girls to call you, and want to meet up with you. There are fuck loads of attractive guys, but you building a connection makes you stand out. It gives you more value than the last cute guy in her world.

Sexual Tension is also very necessary, you need to keep it light and sexual, you should be putting out a sexual vibe. This is easier said than done but basically you can flirt with a woman and talk about her chest or ass in fun way, or other things.

OPENING

When you open a girl there are several different types of openers really that I tend to use: Direct, Observational/Situational, compliments, and indirect….

Direct is pretty obvious and honestly is one of the most powerful ways to go about things. You walking up and stating your attraction without being needy is fucking awesome and works as long as you are an attractive guy with an attractive mindset.

Observational/Situational is my favorite way to go about things… This is also the most difficult to teach because a lot of what I do is read the woman’s body language and make a comment regarding her state/emotions. “Oh wow it’s not that cold.” Playfully joking about them being upset “Wow you look angry enough to drown a puppy…. what’s going on?” I combine wit and observation to use it to my advantage. You can also read the situation, and make an observation that is funny perhaps some girl is making an awful face and you notice it, you can share that observation with a funny statement with a girl. “Did you see her face when she was eating…. it was like a baby sucking a lemon… I thought she was going to cry or drool… either way something was coming out.” I like Observational/situational the most because it builds a connection the quickest and it allows you to share something early on such as an experience. You also have the ability to come in at the right energy as long as you read hers, which is why I tend to choose body language. Using observational also lets you have an inside joke for later when you contact her.

Compliments well you can read my How to compliment article here to learn to open with a compliment.

And of course you have indirect which works extremely well but you don’t hook them to start the conversation but as the interaction develops when you make a statement. A good example is your asking for directions…. asking for an opinion, or whatever else. This something I rarely do now a days.

How to Introduce yourself

Oh k this sounds funny but there is a way I love to introduce myself and it is mostly body language related but it is powerful, confident, and a lot of times comes across as charming (for me at least). Remember your overall body language should be CONFIDENT.

Step 1: Smile/Grin and Make Eye Contact (DO NOT BREAK EYE CONTACT)

Step 2: Turn head slightly(nonthreatening body language)

Step 3: Start your Verbal Introduction (I.E. “Hi I just felt obligated to introduce myself, I’m Wallie”)

Step 4: As you begin to introduce yourself extend your hand with the palm up but as it gets closer make it a regular hand vertical hand shake.

Step 5: When she extend her hand make her hand be over yours with your palm up(shows nonthreatening body language and vulnerability simultaneously)

Step 6: Hold on to her hand for a slightly longer touch and MAINTAIN EYE CONTACT until she looks down. You want it to linger at least 3 seconds of hand shake.

Your Energy

Energy Level – I agree with Skills360 thoughts that you want to come in at a slightly higher than their energy level… Enough to raise them up, but not more than they can handle. Similar to the concept of microcalibration, which is you coming in at her level but we are talking more from an energy stand point.

Your Two biggest Super Powers with Day Game

Remember your two biggest super powers when it comes to day game are making her smile/laugh and building a connection. Making a girl smile is a combination of body language and words.

The easiest way to get someone to smile at you is to smile at her when the interaction starts. A big key is letting your smile grow when you make eye contact but not just looking at her while your smiling, let her know your smile is for her and it will make her smile. Smiles are contagious people tend to smile at you when you smile at them (obviously there will always be exceptions).

Flirt and have fun with her, flirting is fun girls like to joke, smile, and laugh, so keep it light, but fun.

Building a Connection is simple but I have already wrote an article on it here.

End things on a High Note

End the interaction on a high note: Ask for her number while things are going well. Don’t wait for things to get stale, after things are going well just say something pretty basic but straight forward. “You know I’d love to continue this conversation later, I feel like there is something here (use body language to show in between us with your hands then pause and make eye contact with a smile, nod as she does for compliance then continue) but unfortunately I have to voyage off, let me get your number.” (Pull out your phone and have her add it to the phone) ASSUME THE CLOSE!

Without a Connection

Flakes will be a huge problem. You need a connection in day game, well imo you need one either way but without a connection it is even harder. I believe that it is the cornerstone of good game. If you can draw her in and connect with her than you should be good. It makes day 2s easier, phone game is infinitely easier if you do your groundwork before you ever get her number.

If you want more I can get more detailed but I think this is quite a bit as it is. Let me know, ask anything you’d like.

Peace and Love,

Vic

Hey guys,

So I’ve been thinking… a lot of guys don’t realize you need to play to your strengths.. you need to game in a way that would be best for YOU. We look at the PUA community it’s all big on Club Game, or bar game. Then there is the broad topic of Day Game which is just day time… the difference between club game, parties, and bar game is like “night and day”. People react different when they are going out to “hook up” or possibly meet someone than walking down the street. Oh and of course there is online game… something I’ve yet to master. There are plenty of Niches for courtship.

So what I want to talk about is the different niches, something nobody really talks about because they have their favorite game, and that is finding your Niche. Now think about this, you need to play to your strengths that means game in an environment you can do best in. How could I say such a rational thing?

Let’s also talk about your motivation for getting into this stuff, why are you in Pick up? What do you want from it? You want same night lays? A girlfriend? Date multiple girls? That is a decision that should weigh heavily in how you meet girls. This should influence you in the type of game you should acqire.

Note: I think about anyone can learn every type of game, so you can learn all types of game and each will contribute to the other but there are some differences in behavior in different environments.

Now more what I want to talk about is why you should play to your strengths, if you are a good looking guy but don’t have substance be honest about it with yourself, but use your looks… also gain some substance. Guys that are bigger or less attractive shouldn’t be out club gaming imo… attraction isn’t just looks it’s your belief in yourself and you dressing right, acting right, body language.

I’d recommend a bar or pub for the less physically attractive folks so they can let other aspects leap out to women including conversation, after all at the club you aren’t having a deep conversation. Me for instance, I have ok luck at the club (I can dance, know what to do, and dress well-ways I show attraction), but my strength lies in pubs where I can illustrate my personality and build a connection.

I’m not here to lie and say I’m this sexy dude (fit wise)… with a six pack… I’m a chubby guy, so I know my strength lies in my people skills… that is how it’s easiest to get girls for me.

Really good Looking guys can use online game, in fact it is a lot easier for them because girls find them more attractive they are more likely to contact them back. Whereas I’ve had very little luck with online game unless I was on facebook and it was a girl I already knew.

If you are confident playing pool and good at it use it… play some pool, it will give you confidence. If you smoke cigarettes go outside with the smokers, “ask for a light” or be the guy who can give one and have an interesting lighter for story.

Guys too often try and learn game that doesn’t work for them… Do what works for you. Social circle game is also a niche no one really thinks about but honestly think about it…. Opens come free just be attractive and the chick is yours.

What do I recommend? I recommend you look at yourself…. look at your game. Look at what you can improve, but also look at what you have going for you. If you have personality don’t be selfish, share it, go to places you can use it. If you are a good looking guy (like above average) than going to the club will work or anywhere, if you don’t have much personality you can use the club and go for girls there where you can use it to your advantage.

Make a list of good traits. Example: Looks, personality, intelligence, etc.

Make a list of limitations. Example: Shy, can’t dance, nothing to say, etc.

Start gaining the tool sets in every limited area and if it is a problem solve it. If you need to lose weight, go lose weight but that doesn’t make it a limitation, it just means you may want to focus on illustrating value differently than just physically. If you need a sense of style find some. Learn to talk to a girl learn.

From there decide what game will be best for you, you may want to focus on people skills if your looks are limited (be honest with yourself, but that doesn’t mean cut yourself down) then focus on game where you can use words rather than aesthetics… if you’re good looking online game can be easy.

Note: Good looking isn’t just your physical appearance but what you wear, your body language and how you groom yourself.

Always be improving yourself!

Peace and Love,

Vic

If you have 25 minutes and want to learn the basics of evolution, love, and more I highly recommend this! Helen Fisher is an awesome anthropologist with some great books! It is worth learning these basic.

Peace and Love,

Vic

Sorry, had some family issues…. haven’t been around good news though, my confidence program is getting bigger, better and more help.

I figured this would be a nice small follow up.

Peace and Love,

Vic

A super interesting video by Ted talks…. I got to say I love it.

Enjoy !

Peace and Love,

Vic

This is an awesome little write up written 9 years ago by a guy name razor jack… I’ve been looking through old archives learning about some old school seducers.

I think this is an awesome write up and decided to re-post it for all you guys out there!

His system centers on self-confidence and high value.

Peace and Love,

Vic

Link: http://www.fastseduction.com/cgi-bin/search.cgi?action=retrieve&grp=6&mn=1071654972119666

Wassup Playas!

Before I go on to the way I look at the Art of PU and seduction. There’s a
couple of things I want to get across.

Will this method work for everyone?

I have no idea, I’ve never taught it to any one, I just know that it works for
me. This method is something I developed for myself after alot of field
experience, crash & burns and trial & error. But I do believe it can work for
anyone because the implementation of the Razorjack Method is conformed to the
PUAs personality and set of beliefs.

Is Razorjack Method a unique method?

I think so, or maybe it isn’t but I haven’t found anything like it. Judge for
yourself.

Background:

I am what I would call a semi-natural PUA. In my pre-ASF days I had decent
success, I was getting my share of the action but I wasn’t getting it
consistently. I mainly relied on my looks and although I could get lots of 7s
and a few 8s, 9s and 10s were pretty much impossible.

After I discovered ASF, I tried and failed miserably with SS. MM worked fairly
well but I was getting alot of flakes. Now don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t MM
that was getting me flakes, it was my implementation of it. I just couldn’t
keep track of all the steps, the state the target was in, when I should go into
the next step, etc. Again this has nothing to do with MM, I’m sure it’s a great
method. It’s just that I’m an impatient bastard and it was taking me too long.
I also tried Juggler’s method and GWM, but neither of them felt like a
complete method. Again, it has nothing to do with Juggler’s method or GWM, it
was my implementation of it. I think a big reason why I couldn’t use these
methods was because I’d never seen them in real life, only read about them and
tried them out in the field the way I thought they were supposed to be used.

Another reason why I decided to find a method that was suited to my own
personality and set of beliefs was the realization that I could never be as
good as Ross Jeffries, Mystery, Juggler or Gunwitch using their methods.

So after analyzing my game (or lack of game ) and ALOT of soul searching I
came up with Razorjack Method.

I. Razorjack Method – Introduction:

The Razorjack Method is more a set of beliefs and a frame of mind than an
actual structured method. This is because I think the Art of PU and seduction
is fluid and dynamic rather than structured. Even though you will see
similarities from one PU to another they’re never completely the same because
not every person is the same. That is why as a PUA you must be fluid, dynamic
and adaptable to the situation.

It is then this set of beliefs and frame of mind that actually steers the
PU/sarge/seduction. I found that the biggest advantage of the Razorjack Method
is that it helps the PUA think beyond the PU and once you start to think beyond
the PU, the close/sex is no longer a big deal, it’s just a matter of fact. This
may be hard to grasp, but try to think of it like this metaphor:

Suppose you want to raise you annual salary by $10,000. Now $10,000 sounds like
a lot, but it’s only half of $20,000. So if you aim for $20,000 and work hard
to get it then $10,000 doesn’t seem like such a big deal any more.

Another advantage I found was that Razorjack Method is not bound to a linear
set of steps. This can also be a disadvantage, but the advantage is that the
PU/sarge/seduction becomes very dynamic, fluid and spontaneous. Using this
method I’ve had sarges that were like 5 hours of talking before the close, I’ve
had one sarge that could only be described as GWM on the dance floor where I
didn’t say more than 10 words before the close, another sarge where I didn’t
talk to the target more than 5min but kinoed her for 1 hour while talking to
her friend before closing, etc.

One more thing before I get into the actual method:

Razorjack Method is not for beginners, armchair seductionists or PU theorists.
Razorjack Method requires that you have some field experience, a decent PU
toolbox and that you have a good idea about who you are as a person.

II. Razorjack Method – The Mindset

Like mentioned previously, Razorjack Method is more a set of beliefs and a
frame of mind than an actual structured method. So let’s get started!

Imagine that you work for an elite fashion model agency. It’s your job to go
out and recruit new talent, tomorrow’s top female supermodels. Ok I know you’re
getting a hard on now, but try and pay attention.

Ok, now your office is full of hot women that would be willing to do anything
for you just so you would pick them. When you are trying to discover the next
supermodel how would you act in front of all the hot candidates in your office?
Do you think you would have to ask for sex or would it just come as part of the
job? Would you go around trying to impress the candidates or is it the
candidates’ job to try and impress you? Knowing that there are 200 hot and
willing women in the room, would you try and come up with some clever sneaky
way to sex one of the candidates or would you just tell her “let’s go”?

I know you’re thinking that this would be a dream scenario and impossible for
ordinary guys. I agree, it would require a tremendous amount of luck to get a
job like that. But it doesn’t require anything to adopt that frame of mind.
This is the core essence of Razorjack Method.

Those model candidates would flock to the recruiting agent because he is the
only one who could give them what they’ve dreamed of. Razorjack Method is based
on the idea that the PUA KNOWS he has something of such rare quality that women
would flock to him without hesitation. If you don’t believe you have anything
of such rare quality than you should stop right here, Razorjack Method is not
for you. You’d be better off with one of the other methods.

III. Razorjack Method – Implementation

So what is this rare quality that I’m referring to? Well I can’t tell you, only
you can answer this. Remember earlier where I mentioned that my method is
conformed by the PUA to his set of beliefs and personality, well this is it.
This is not easy, it takes time and alot of soul-searching. You have to find
out exactly what your beliefs are, what your best and worst qualities are, what
your reality is, etc. This is a lot harder than it sounds, because as humans we
tend to change and evolve.

OK, now that I’ve filled your head with plenty of abstract information, let me
explain what my rare quality is and how I acquired it(at this moment in time,
it may change sometime in the future):

In order for me to find out what kind of person I am, I had to ask myself some
questions. I suggest anyone wanting to learn Razorjack Method do the same and
be COMPLETELY honest here, DO NOT MENTAL MASTURBATE!

1. Why would any chick want me? (Make a list here explaining why)
2. What do I have that she would want? (Make a list here with all your
qualities)
3. What am I willing to give a chick that I want? (Make a list of things that
YOU like doing and that you know chicks would also enjoy)
4. How would I treat a chick that I let into my life? (Make a list of the
special treatment a chick can get from you if you let her into your world)
5. Are the qualities I have valuable to me? (I hope you can answer, yes, b/c if
they’re are valuable to you then they can also be valuable to others)
6. Knowing that I have these special qualities (from question #2), who is the
most important person in my life? (You should know the answer to this one)
7. Now that I know how special I am, who would get more out of a PU, me or the
chick?
8. Knowing that the chick would have a lot more to gain than me out of an
interaction, would ANY and ALL chicks be lucky to have me in their lives?
9. Knowing that ANY chick would be lucky to have me in their life, if she
doesn’t realize this then is there something wrong with me or is this
particular chick too stupid to realize just how lucky she is?
10. Knowing that I’m as valuable as a Ferrari on the car market, do I need to
convince anyone to drive a Ferrari or does the Ferrari sell it self? If this
chick doesn’t realize how lucky she is, do I need to convince her she’s making
a mistake or do I give the 11 hotter chicks, standing behind her (that would
LOVE to have me in their life), a chance?
12. Now that I have something valuable for EVERY women in the world, what
qualities should she have in order for me to let her in my life? (make a list
of the qualities you want in a woman)
13. What are the rules people have to follow in order to stay a part of my
life?(make a list of the rules women or anyone for that matter must follow in
order to have you in their lives)

There are probably 1000 more questions to list here, but you get the idea.

I found out that I am a very generous person towards people that I feel deserve
my generosity. So my mindset is that I am giving a rare gift to any woman I PU.
I know what you’re thinking: “well what the hell is your rare gift,
Razorjack?”

Well since I’m a generous person, here it is:

My rare gift is my reality, my world. My reality consists of free love to any
one I let in. This includes not just good sex, but incredible sex where I would
actually like to make a woman’s fantasy come true. In my reality there is
mutual respect. No one is judged or accused in my reality, this means that
women are free to tell me their most erotic fantasies without me accusing them
of being sluts or perverts. I love to pleasure and spoil women, like giving
sensual massages and cooking romantic dinners for them. I love being intimate
with women, doesn’t just have to be sex. I love to make women feel good. I will
always listen and try to help the women in my world whenever they would need
it. I genuinely care for and love all the women in my life. They can get love
and intimacy from me whenever they want (if I have free time).

Just like in the real world, there are rules in my reality. I don’t let just
anyone in, women have to qualify in order to enter my world. I will not
tolerate manipulation or disrespect by anyone in my world. Violation of these
and other rules will result in first a warning and then being ejected out of my
world if violations persist.

It only took a few minutes to type my reality in to the computer, but it took
me several months of constant 24/7 soul-searching to figure out what my reality
is.

Now I don’t know if you see it, but to me this gift is priceless. What woman
would not want this for her self?

IV. Razorjack Method – Three Step “Structure”

This is a PU structure or steps that I follow but it’s kept very general in
order for the PU to remain fluid and dynamic.

Step 1: Project your Reality.
Mastering this step will probably take more time than mastering the others but
you only have to do it once. Once you’ve mastered this step, the sarge becomes
so much easier and the rest of the steps flow smoothly and effortlessly. This
step consists of basically adopting the mindset discussed earlier. You have to
really believe that you have a rare gift/quality that has incredible value to
all women. Once you start to KNOW it then you’ll notice a HUGE improvement in
your game. Knowing that you have a rare quality/gift will change your attitude,
posture, body language^», etc and you’ll never supplicate again. Believe me women
will also notice this.

Step 2: Give the Target “a sneak peak” of YOUR Reality
This is where you invite the target into your reality for a sneak preview of
what it would be like to be with you. This step is really easy. If you’ve done
the soul-searching than you know what qualities you have and what things are
important to you. This is what you talk about with her. Now you have an endless
amount of topics to discuss with your target. Inviting the target into your
reality doesn’t have to be verbal either, it could be with your body language^»,
your attitude, the way you dance, whatever. This is what keeps the PU fluid and
dynamic.

Step 3: Qualify the Target
This is where you qualify the target to find out if she meets the requirements
you listed in question #10. During this step is usually when she’ll start to
ask me questions or wanting rapport as we say on mASF. The way I do it is I
giver her more and more rapport as she meets more and more of my
qualifications.

V. Razorjack Method – Utilization

This section will deal with how you use the mindset to tackle real world PU
problems. Like I stated earlier the mindset is what steers the
PU/sarge/interaction.

A. Openers:

Openers really don’t matter, if you consider that the chick is lucky that you
even approached her. Open with whatever and move on. Remember that you’re
giving her a chance to prove that she’s worthy enough to have you in her life.

B. Attitude, Body Language^», Alphaness, etc:

If you truly believe that you are valuable and have special qualities then it
will ooze out of every pore of your being. It’s like the difference between a
rusty Buick and a brand new Ferrari. The Ferrari, even with the engine turned
off just screams AWESOME. If you were selling a rusty old Buick then you would
need to push that car onto to others in order to convince them to buy it. If
you’re selling a Ferrari, you don’t need to convince anyone that the Ferrari is
an awesome car, people not only can see it, they KNOW it. You need to be that
Ferrari!

C. Topics of discussion:

A lot of newbies here ask “What should I talk about?” You know what you’re
values are, what your reality is, what your world is, what you’re looking for
in a woman, etc. This is an endless pool of resources for discussion topics.

D. Attraction:

I don’t use push/pull or any other attraction tactics, I believe the reality
I’m projecting does all the attraction for me. I use a bit of C & F and C & P
but in very small amounts. I just happen to be a good-looking guy, so maybe
this helps me, but then there’s the thing about looks not mattering at all.
This is a possible topic of debate? Like I said I don’t know anyone else who
uses this method so I have no reference to compare to.

E. Rapport, Trust & Comfort, Connection building, etc:

There’s been a lot of debate on this issue. I personally just assume rapport,
trust & comfort, etc. I don’t think about this at all. I know that I’m a
trustworthy and reliable person and that any chick would be lucky to be with
me. I’ll answer what she wants to know about me if she meets my qualifications.
So I see no need to worry about this part.

F. Shit tests:

This is the part of the sarge I enjoy the most, but I don’t get that many shit
tests anymore, since I started using my method. Whenever I do get a “shit test”
I pretty much blow it out of the water. Again it’s all steered by my mindset.
IMO if a chick is “shit testing” me then she either doesn’t believe that I’m
the REAL DEAL or she needs a reason to allow herself to be attracted to me.

The way I pass “shit tests” is real simple. If I have an answer to her shit
test then I’ll answer it.
For example:

HB: Don’t think I’m going to have sex with you tonight.
RJ: We’ve been talking for about 5 minutes and you’re already thinking about
sex? (said playfully) Wow you must really be attracted to me! (evil grin) BTW I
don’t have sex with just any chick, she has to qualify first.

Here is where I would talk about sex and start to qualify her.

If it’s “shit test” that I don’t have an answer to then I’ll do anything from a
takeaway, to flirting with other chicks or just down right ignore the shit like
it’s completely beneath me to answer stupid questions from a silly girl.

G. AMOG destroying:

This is also another part of the sarge that I really enjoy. What’s funny is
that since I reached the PUA level with my method, I almost never get an AMOG
disrupting my sarge. It’s almost like they know I’ll blow them out before they
even get their game going.

It’s all about remembering how rare your qualities are and how valuable that is
to the chicks. If we use the car analogy again, it’s like you selling your
Ferrari and have the customer completely interested, then some used car
salesman comes and tells your customer to buy a kit car Ferrari look-alike
imitation with no warrantee or guarantee of quality. It would be beneath you to
even compete against the used car salesman, because you have 10 other
prospecting customers standing in line waiting to buy your Ferrari.

With this in mind, my preferred method of AMOG destroying is to befriend the
AMOG as soon as he comes in and before he even gets his game started, I’ll
start to flirt with other chicks and give the target the impression that I’ll
leave her ass for someone else if she even gives the AMOG the slightest bit of
attention. The chick will blow out the AMOG almost immediately. Any of the AMOG
destroyers on this forum will also work.

H. LMR, ASD:

I never get problems with LMR and ASD anymore. Again I think it has to do with
my mindset. I realize that I am so valuable and complete the way I am that I
don’t NEED sex. It’s not a numbers game for me anymore. I don’t see the chicks
as sluts or sex objects, so I’ll never treat them like sluts, matter of fact
they know that they can be as slutty as they want around me and I’ll only enjoy
it, never judge them. I never rush the sarge, so the chicks know that I don’t
need them when I have others that are willing to be with me. Matter of fact
they know that they need me more than I need them. So no LMR or ASD.

I covered everything I could think of, but I’m blind to a lot of details and
really suck at explaining PU theory because I am somewhat of a natural. If
there’s anything that’s unclear just ask and I’ll try to explain it as best I
can.

Comments, feedback, and flaming is always welcome.

-Razorjack

This is the only pick up technique you need as long as you gain some core self confidence. I highly recommend simply doing this once or twice with congruency (you must be congruent with it). If you have confidence and you can be this direct with women confidently you can do very well.

This direct game which is entirely based on having strong inner game.

Peace and Love,

Vic

SHOCK and AWE: Fool’s Mate Game

by Ciaran of Real Social Dynamics www.realsocialdynamics.com in association with www.jeffyshow.com

…………………………

There’s a myth in this underground world we inhabit that if you sleep with a girl within minutes of meeting her, that’s not solid game.

On the one hand, I agree.

If you fluke out once in a while and find some random chick who’s just looking to get laid, that’s not you – that’s just luck.

Some guys will harp on about how great they are at getting girls because it happens to them once in a blue moon.

I speak from experience. I too was once a deluded chode.

HOWEVER.

What if it’s not every once in a while?

What if you can pull chicks in minutes, consistently. And not munters (US translation: warpigs) mind. What if you can consistently pull stunning girls, rapidly?

Is that solid game?

You tell me.

In this article I will sketch out a detailed map of how to pull off “Fool’s Mate” pickups with consistency and panache.

Are you sitting comfortably?

Then I’ll begin.

THE BEST NATURAL I EVER MET

When I decided that I was going to get good with women, I was broke. I had no money, and I had no friends.

I’d gotten fired from my fancy job in the sandstone maze of London’s Square Mile, and I was in debt. I moved to Edinburgh because I couldn’t afford London rent, and I slept on my sister’s couch until I found a job.

The job I found was bartending. It was good, easy work. After the nightmarish stress of the financial sector, it felt like heaven.

Besides, it also meant that I’d be talking to lots of girls.

That was good, but the real benefit I got from taking that job was a guy called Andy.

I thank God every day that my path crossed with Andy’s.

Andy was amazing.

He was just jaw-dropping. He wasn’t ugly, but he wasn’t particularly good looking. He was an engineering student who worked in a bar.

I have never seen a man pull that well.

We became friends, and as I worked at approaching and approaching, I started to improve.

Ultimately though, it was Andy that made me great.

You see, I’d messed around with ‘indirect, tactical’ game, but found it weak, pointless, unnatural.

Direct game was different. Powerful, exciting, real. I found my results getting better and better.

But I was nothing compared to Andy.

You see, Andy didn’t date. Ever.

He didn’t date, he didn’t buy girls drinks, he didn’t call them, he NEVER took phone numbers.

At the age of 21, he’d already slept with over 150 women.

Engineering student.

Bartender.

ANDY’S SECRET – REVERSE ENGINEERED

One day I asked him a question. I’d just gotten tested in a massive way by this hot Swedish chick, and completely crashed out.

I ran the test by Andy. It was this:

“You just want to sleep with me, don’t you?”

I offered several responses – Play it hard to get. Play it cocky. Play it sweet.

Andy just laughed at me. Then he said this:

“You know what I’d have said? I’d have said – yeah. I’ll do you in every hole you’ve got.”

He said it with a beaming grin on his face, laughing as he said it. Not joking as he said it, mind – that’s important. Laughing, but not joking.

I thought about this for a time, then I began to use it. Not his line, but his attitude.

Amazingly, it worked. Even while I was testing this out, I’d rarely get blown out. And my results skyrocketed.

Toward the end of my singledom, before I met my beautiful girlfriend, I would walk out of the house alone, walk into the first busy bar I saw, walk up to the hottest chick in the room, pull her, take her home and sleep with her.

I would do this consistently, without getting blown out. One approach per night. 100% success.

Believe me or not, I don’t care. It is true. I used to do it to show off to all my friends.

In the end, even Andy couldn’t match me.

SHOCK and AWE

What I am about to tell you is real. I’ve been sitting on this for a while, because I’ve been in a relationship and I’ve been off the forums for a while.

Joining RSD’s brought me back, but I recently remembered that I never released this on Cliff’s List.

For all intents and purposes gentlemen, this is hot off the press.

Essentially, it’s Fool’s Mate game.

It’s a way of getting a Fool’s Mate – that is to say, a rapid seduction that takes minutes and not hours.

This was always something of a holy grail to me – I saw naturals pull consistent same night lays, and I knew that I would do that too.

I hated phone game – still do. I’m awful at it. I’m rubbish on the phone because one day after calling through 25 numbers I’d collected one afternoon and getting nothing, I decided I’d never take another phone number, no matter HOW PROMISING it seemed to be.

Same night, or nothing. That was my training rule.

Besides, I was always curious about the ‘GM method’. Many of you probably have no idea what I’m talking about, but basically way back in the day there was a PUA who claimed to have cracked the Fool’s Mate Code.

His ‘style’ was, he said, extremely ‘advanced’ and ‘high risk’.

As such, it never caught on.

SHOCK and AWE is not high risk. It sounds like it is, but it’s really not – and I’ll explain why in a moment.

It’s not even advanced. I’d call it intermediate. If you can open, and you can get attraction, and you can chill out and chat with a chick and not get weird – you can do this.

It is not a quick fix solution for hopeless newbies.

Sorry.

If you’re having problems stringing a sentence together, if your body language sucks, if you have bad VOICE PROJECTION (this, as Jeffy points out, is crucial to all game) – this will not work.

However, if you’re plateauing somewhere in the intermediate stages, (or if you just hate getting phone numbers like I do) this might be EXACTLY what you need.

I never felt that GM method, or any other Fool’s Mate method were very well explained.

Hardcore insta-pickups seem always to be written as very high-risk things for, well, Grand Masters.

I wanted to provide something much simpler, something easier that is devastatingly effective and instantly useable.

So here it is, gentlemen. Shock and Awe.

IT’S ALL SO SIMPLE

A good friend of mine once asked, regarding pickup – “Why isn’t this easy?”

The answer is, as he pointed out, that it is easy. We just make it complex.

Shock and Awe is, very simply, something I developed out of SOIing too much when I was closing a chick down so I could kiss her/grab her and leave/whatever.

I developed a very specific kind of SOI (statement of intent) that covers your back socially while allowing you to come out with the most outrageous stuff – stuff that gets her very horny, very fast.

I’d use principles from this to sex up the vibe of a conversation with a chick if it was getting dull. The point is though, you don’t need to do that.

I realised that you can open with it. You can open, and then drop straight into a continual SOI loop and close a chick straight down very fast. It’s a kind of vibe, you can feel when you’ve hit it because it’s electric. You can just go ape from the outset and drive her crazy, then take her home.

THE MECHANICS OF FOOL’S MATE GAME

This is a very basic sketch of Shock and Awe.

Basically, BEING OPEN about your desire and BLAMING THE CHICK for being hot is dynamite.

Toward the end of my pickup rampage I had developed a whole new kind of game around doing just this one thing.

I called it Shock and Awe, because it is shocking, awesome, and if you nail it you can pull a chick extremely quickly. It’s mental. I love it. I stopped doing it for a while because it got boring.

No, really.

The final thing to understand before we get to the nitty gritty of what to do is this:

The SOIs you use in Shock and Awe aren’t really SOIs as such.

You’re not making a “Statement of Interest.” You’re not making a “Statement Of Intent.”

You’re stating your DESIRE.

This is a whole ‘nuther level of important. There’s not “I intend to sleep with you” or “I am interested in you”. This is you talking about your DESIRE alone. That is all. How hot she is. How sexy she is. How awesome her body is.

Just pure sex, right from the outset.

ENOUGH FOREPLAY: HERE IT IS…

To map the basic structure of Shock and Awe it would be

1) APPROACH WITH AN SOI THEN SOI STACK, BLAMING HER HOTNESS FOR YOUR ACTIONS.

Make sure they are creative and funky SOIs. Think of it like jazz. SOI jazz. Free form, just go for it. Say anything. It’s not important. What is important is that you blame her for being hot. Say something like

“Excuse me, but WHAT? What do you WANT? Do you want me to just walk on BY? I mean, you’re absolutely STUNNING. Do you want me to just PRETEND like that doesn’t effect me? I mean, HOW? I’m just some GUY. I can’t turn it off. What are you trying to DO to me, woman?” etc….

You’re not shouting, BTW – keep it cool. Capitalisation just there for emphasis.

2) ALWAYS BE ESCALATING PHYSICALLY, ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS.

Blame her for the fact you can’t keep your hands off her. Act like you’re trying to keep your hands of her and you just can’t. Blame her more. Ask her why she’s doing this to you. Physically fight your urge to touch her, and make this conflict OBVIOUS. You are a wild animal STRAINING against a tight fucking leash. You’re in control… but BARELY.

Don’t fake this. Really get into this headspace. This is the key to the whole thing, and if you are in ANY doubt how to do that, click here: www.jeffyshow.com

3) EXPRESS DESIRE, DO THIS RELENTLESSLY AND BLAME HER FOR IT.

Tell her you deserve a gold star for effort for not jumping all over her. Keep it funny, but make sure the vibe is highly erotic. Remember – LAUGHING, NOT JOKING. Tell her that if she doesn’t stop being hot you’re not going be held responsible. Tell her to eat a load of pies, and gain 5 stone so you can connect with her personality without wanting to tear all her clothes off.

4) IF YOU PUSH IT TOO FAR, APOLOGISE FOR THE DISRESPECT AND NOT THE ACTION.

Genuinely apologise. Really. Actually do this and MEAN IT.

But remember – ONLY apologise for the DISRESPECT.

NEVER apologise for the ACTION/SOI/KINO.

Then tell her you did it because she’s really hot. Blame her for being hot. Tell her she should wear a bag over her head so you can have a normal conversation with her.

5) GO TO STEP 2.

You can basically do this until she breaks. It’s great.

Just remember guys, use a condom.

ARE YOU SERIOUS? IS IT REALLY THAT SIMPLE?

Honest to God, have consistently pulled hot chicks with this. It’s not infallible, but it’s hilarious and it blows through all the BS.

CAN I DO THIS IN A GROUP OF GIRLS?

Yup. It’s a different ball game though.

GROUP SHOCK AND AWE.

S+A the entire group as an opener and then drop into a highly charged comfort phase.

This is actually really easy.

This is also how you NEUTRALIZE ALL RISK associated with being so extreme.

You just say something like “No – no, this is ridiculous. I’m going to find out who you are. You can’t do this to me. I have depth. Tell me about yourself.”

And then they do (either that or they demand to know who you are, but it’s all in good fun) and boom, you’re chatting. It acts like an explosive, funny, charming group opener.

They usually then fight it out amongst themselves for who gets to bang you, or you can hit on one especially if you like her.

DO I NEED LOTS OF ISOLATION?

Isolation? Sure, you need it, but you don’t need much, especially in a club or a bar.

Normal rules apply – I wouldn’t go for the kill on a chick in a seated set, just set the vibe then chill back, stay in contention and wait for an opening.

If it’s a loud club, you can claw a chick close to you for isolation, or just lean in.

Basically, you don’t need to be slavish about this. A few feet of distance will do it. Remember – SHOCK and AWE. As soon as you start you kick off this electric vibe.

IT’S ALL ABOUT THE VIBE, ABOUT MAGNIFYING THE VIBE

And the vibe is generated from the fact that she’s so sexy she’s breaking you down, but you’re resisting. That’s where the tension comes from.

HOW IMPORTANT IS IT TO BLAME THE CHICK FOR YOUR EXTREME ACTIONS?

This is the heart of it. You are talking direct, but you’re blaming her hotness for your directness.

As such, it’s like two different levels of compliment, both of which are highly unusual and extremely difficult to resist.

You’re basically telling her it’s totally out of character for you to behave like this and you’re fighting it, but you’re really, really struggling.

This isn’t an academic issue. THIS FRAME IS HOW YOU AVOID ASD WHEN GOING FOR A FOOL’S MATE. The frame is, she is breaking down your resolve with her hotness. This is massive. Why?

Because it defuses so many negative things.

First off, her ASD can’t really kick in. Why not? Because she’s not doing anything, and neither are you. You’re just complimenting her. No girl is going to walk away from someone just because he says she’s hot, not unless she’s a nutter.

Secondly, it’s a female fantasy. She’s the femme fatale, destroying your resistance. The more fight you put up, the more resistance to her you express, and the more you lose this battle, the more she feels sexy.

YOU SAY I SHOULD KINO ESCALATE – HOW?

Look – you’ve gotta be savvy with it, but anyone who’s good with girls will tell you that you can get very tactile very quickly as long as you aren’t being weird.

Don’t paw her. Slide your fingertips along her arms. Take her hand in yours, really, really lightly (this is killer). Glide your hands on her skin. Hardly touch her at all. Even move your hands toward her waist then pull them back as if dragging them back against resistance (don’t be weird, it’s all kinda tongue in cheek) and then give up. Then pull them back again. Then berate her more for being hot.

SHOULD YOU DO THIS AFTER A NORMAL OPENER?

I don’t know what a normal opener is. I usually rock up and say hi, then blurt out something and play it by ear. Opening with this is sick though. You have to try it.

DON’T YOU NEED ZEN-MASTER LEVELS OF CALIBRATION?

No. You just have to be “not completely terrible.”

Look – fair enough, calibration is important, but CALIBRATION DOES NOT MEAN HESITATION. You should be leading the encounter. Lead it. It goes where you go. You’re the man.

WON’T THIS BREAK TOO MANY SOCIAL RULES?

That’s WHY it works.

Yes – seriously.

The fact that you blame her means that she has to justify it as not being her fault.

But how can she do that? Is she going to say “I’m not that hot?”

No. She is a woman. She will, instead, love it.

It’s a female fantasy, she’s annihilating you with her looks alone. You’re resisting but she’s breaking you down.

They love it. Seriously, it’s great.

DO I HAVE TO GO FOR BROKE EVERY TIME I USE THIS?

No. You can drop out of it any time with the line I gave you earlier

Also, this doesn’t have to be used as such a high-octane thing.

Try dropping a little of it in here and there. See what happens. Learn to calibrate it. The vibe you want is half sexy mocking, half pure sex.

It is all about that vibe.

You can tell when you’re good to go in for a kiss because she’ll start darting in toward your lips then veering off, pretending it was by accident.

I call this “The Dive.”

When you see this, grab her by the back of the neck and kiss the heck out of her.

SO ARE YOU SAYING I CAN JUST DO THIS?

Yup.

It’s amazing how well this attitude defuses all the negative things about being really direct with girls.

And once you’ve defused them, boom – you can basically cut through all the tactics and just blast her with desire until she breaks.

WHAT IF I RUN OUT OF THINGS TO SAY?

A big part of this is about getting creative with your compliments. I don’t want to give too many actual examples of stuff, mainly because the stuff you say doesn’t have to be ‘Da Vinci’.

This is NOT a routine-based method.

It is a direct method, a way of cultivating an attitude of non-weird, engaging, sexual expression. You can do it high octane and go for the Fool’s Mate, or you can do it low-octane and just drop Shock and Awe SOI’s in as and when in the context of chatting up a lovely young lady.

Sometimes you can strip it right down and say “You’re really hot” to a girl, but in a kind of bolshy, accusing tone, almost like you’re affronted by that fact. Like it’s unfair, or out of context, or like she’s just doing it to piss you off.

That works too.

Another one that I came up with that I thought was great (and makes a brilliant opener) is when I’m talking to a chick, to just look at her boobs, look back at her eyes, and then in my best Hugh Grantish voice say “I’m terribly sorry, I just totally checked you out.”

They’ll usually laugh and say “that’s ok.” or something. Then you can drop straight into S+A and say “It’s your fault. You’re totally stunning. I’m just some guy. I can’t stand up to this kind of artillery.”

I love saying that. The artillery thing. It’s almost my trademark. Never got a bad reaction, ever. Not once.

SO I’VE JUST GOT TO BE FUNNY?

NO.

This is not a set of jokes.

It is a flow, a constant flow of jazz where the one thing goes into the other.

Occasionally the girl will coquettishly say “I’m sorry” when you blame her for being hot, to which you can blast back with “You’re not sorry at all.” And then she’ll usually giggle.

Bless.

WARNING – GET YOUR INNER GAME SORTED OUT FIRST

There’s something important that I want to say here.

I knew a guy who had major issues with women, really negative stuff. You know, when a guy gets vindictive, or harbours a grudge against women because they’ve never wanted him.

I showed him S+A, and pulled a couple of chicks in front of him so he could see it. He wanted to have a go.

It wasn’t good.

When I watched him do this, you could actually see that he really was actually angry. It was scary and weird. We talked through a lot of it, but I realized that IF YOU DO ACTUALLY HARBOUR ACTUAL AGGRESSION OR RESENTMENT TOWARD WOMEN, THIS COMES ACROSS AND THEY WILL FREAK AND RUN.

Women are lovely. Remember this.

Just so everyone, especially guys who are absolutely starting out on this understand, there is no actual anger or malice involved in this. It’s hard to convey voice tone over the Internet, so I’m going to spell this one out.

This is totally critical. It probably doesn’t really need to be said on this list because this is a cool place, but I wanted to make that explicit. If you are actually angry with women, you need to really address that before you do anything else, and certainly before you start pulling out stuff like this.

This is a way of expressing how much you desire a woman without weirding her out. THAT IS BASICALLY ALL S+A IS. It’s just a highly concentrated way of doing it.

I know you guys get that here, I just wanted to get it in black and white so everyone’s on the same page.

SO IF I DO THIS A CHICK WILL JUST JUMP ME?

If you do it right, very often she will, yes. HOWEVER – it’s impossible to predict who will and who won’t.

Depends on a million things. It can be very rapid, or it can take a while.

The beauty of this is that if it seems like she’s not just in the mood to leap all over you, you can drop the S+A and just have a chat. Again, that line to segue into a more normal (though highly charged conversation is…

“no, you’re not going to break me. I have depth. I’m going to get to know you properly, and there’s nothing you can do about it. Tell me about yourself.”

I’VE HEARD I SHOULDN’T GET GIRLS HORNY TILL WE’RE ALONE?

Disregard that utter garbage.

You get her properly BLAZING. Some guys will say that you should be tactical about this kind of thing.

I just can’t be bothered.

As far as I see it, there’s no point messing around when you’re messing around with women.

WOW! THIS SOUNDS AMAZING! FINALLY! THE MAGIC PILL!

Nope. It’s not a magic pill. As I said, this will only work for guys who are already reasonably comfortable with approaching.

If you’re looking at this thinking “Awesome – now I don’t have to do all those tricky approaches” then you’re heading for a fall.

This takes guts.

Ok?

You need to get some guts, and you can only do that by approaching lots and lots of chicks and becoming cool with approaching.

Understand?

It’s a Fool’s Mate Game system that GENUINELY WORKS – but it is not the ANSWER to your PRAYERS.

Here’s a good rule of thumb. If you’re looking at this and getting excited because you think it’s cool, odds are you’re going to be able to do it.

If you’re looking at this thinking it’s the meaning of life, you’re still a newbie and you need to get some experience.

Sorry.

OK, FAIR PLAY CIARAN. SOUNDS LIKE A GOOD TECHNIQUE THOUGH.

It’s not a technique. It is a mode of sexual expression.

I mapped out the stages just to give you a feel of what to do, but I hope you guys can see that this isn’t a tactical thing. This is what happens when you say “forget tactics” and just go for it.

I originally came out with this on a chick who was just ludicrously hot, amazing eyes, dress, legs, face, teeth, ears, nasal hair – the works. I was in an absolutely chipper mood, nimbus aglow, just on top form.

I opened by telling her that it was ridiculous to expect me to just walk on by with her looking like that. She smiled, so I kept on saying the same kind of thing. Next thing I know she’s kissing me.

What I’m saying is that this HAS TO BE GENUINE. Direct game, if not genuine, is seedy, manipulative weirdness.

S+A is a vibe. It is a route of expression.

The inner game stuff, the practise – all that jazz, is the iceberg. This is the tip.

This is not a short cut.

IT’S JUST NOT A MASSIVE DETOUR, which a lot of highly tactical systems are.

I’m certain that if you’ve never done anything like this before it is scary, so just understand that there are several elements to this that go on behind the scenes.

One is your general abilities of self-expression and creative speech. This is something that Jeffy explains brilliantly, so read his stuff, copy it, buy The Jeffy Show (www.jeffyshow.com) and watch it constantly. The other big part of it is sexual expression, for which I’d also recommend The Jeffy Show.

CLOSING STATEMENTS

Shock and Awe is the pinnacle of direct game as I practice it.

Fool’s Mate game.

No BS, no tactics, just straight in there, make a girl feel really hot, have great fun with her, be cool, go back to your/her place and do the hunka-chunka. Problem solved.

This isn’t about tricking girls into stuff, or playing them. If you try that, you’ll fail, and I will personally batter you senseless with your own shoes.

This is about refusing to be a leaf in the hurricane.

This is about being the hurricane, gentlemen.

Forget the leaf, my friends.

Be the hurricane.

Ever Yours

Ciaran

I couldn’t help it.. This is the douchiest message I’ve ever heard… I’d embed it if I could but click the link and listen to that shit.

The Douchiest Phone Message

Enjoy! It’s seriously something that is hilarious…. Don’t ever leave this message.

Peace and Love,

Vic

This is an awesome article on empathy, the biggest reason being you need to learn to connect with women in order to get them regularly…. A great article on empathy.

Enjoy!

Peace and Love,

Vic

Link: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/wander-woman/201111/give-your-empathy-boost

by Marcia Reynolds, Psy.D.

Posted on Psychology Today

Whether you are a man or woman, empathy is a dying art. Life is so loud and distracting it becomes harder to sense what is going on around us. The less we are aware in the moment, the harder it is to tune into other people’s feelings and intentions.

In fact, according to Sara Konrath at the University of Michigan, college students today show 40% less empathy vs. students in the 1980s and 1990s.

Yet empathy is critical to establishing healthy relationships and developing social and leadership skills.

The good news is that even though we may be losing our ability to show empathy, we still have the capacity to empathize anytime we want to.

In other words, you may forget how to have empathy. You can remember if you choose to.

The brain is naturally empathetic. You have “mirror neurons” which connect your brain like Wi-Fi with people you observe. As a protective mechanism, you automatically tune into their emotions, their movements and intentions.

When you walk down the street and someone comes your way, it’s likely you will both move in the same direction even though you are trying to get out of each other’s way. This is because your mirror neurons sensed the person’s intentions and you “mirrored” their actions until your cognitive brain could engineer an opposing move that cleared the path.

Mirror neurons give you the capacity to “step into another’s shoes.” According to Dr. Keysers at the University of Groningen in the Netherlands, when you see a spider crawling up someone’s leg, you feel a creepy sensation. Similarly, when you observe someone reach out to a friend and they are pushed away, your brain registers the sensation of rejection. When you watch your team win or a couple embrace on television, you feel their emotions as if you are there. Social emotions like guilt, shame, pride, embarrassment, disgust and lust can all be experienced by watching others.

However, if you are using your cognitive brain to think about the past, the future, or your email, you are not connecting to your emotional brain. You suppress your empathy–how your mind is reading the emotions and intentions of others. The empathy is there. You are just not paying attention.

To increase your empathy, you have to both control your wandering mind and strengthen your capacity to empathize through practice. Here’s how:

1. Be quiet, inside and out. The more you can quiet your chattering brain, the more you can hear your emotional wisdom. Meditation is a good practice. You can also tune in through stopping your activity and focusing on your breath. Keep your mind empty as long as you can as you look around you. Practice observing with a quiet mind in five-minute intervals.
2. Fully watch as well as listen. Watch movies that tell stories full of both drama and humor. Getting absorbed in another’s life story strengthens the connections between your cognitive and emotional brain. This is better done in a theater where your phone is turned off. Konrath also suggests, “…people take time out of their busy schedules and actively practice empathy each day. This means spending time each day in face-to-face, other-focused listening to others and imagining what they feel.” Commit to spending 30 minutes a day watching people in meetings or social settings where you don’t have to talk much.
3. Ask yourself what you are feeling. If many of your emotions are in part a reflection of what another person is feeling, practicing “emotional awareness” on yourself will help you empathize when you are with others. This requires you teach your brain to access and label your emotional reactions. To help learn this skill, check out my Emotional Inventory where you will be asked to stop two or three times a day and pick out what emotion you are feeling from a list of possible sensations.You may also need to work on identifying where in your body your emotions appear. Where do you feel fear–in your chest, your throat, or in the back of your neck? Where do you feel anger–in your stomach, your jaw, or in your clenched fists? How about betrayal? Joy? Humiliation? Recall the last time you felt a particular emotion. Try to feel it again. Where does it show up in your body? The quicker you can identify changes in your physical reactions to situations, the easier it will be to know that you are “having an emotion.”
4. Test your instinct. If it is appropriate, when you are in conversation with someone else, tell the person what emotions you are experiencing. Ask them if there is anything that might be triggering these same emotions in them. Be patient with their response. It might take them a while before they can recognize their own emotional state. Then share with them what you think they might do next. Even if you are wrong, it will help them to begin to identify their own emotions and inclinations for action.

In truth, you are an excellent mind reader. You just need to pay attention and be willing to believe what you read. Boost your empathy to strengthen your relationships and improve your social skills.

I was reading through the forum and Chief the main Mod from the forum put up this great article on there. I felt obligated to put it on here as there is so much truth to this.

Please check out Chief and his articles on his blog here he also writes for another site that is pretty good here.

Enjoy!

Peace and Love,

Vic

6 PUA Mistakes That Kill Your Game

As you may or may not already know, there is no one method that every “pickup artist” adheres to. A lot of PUAs follow a lot of different philosophies and methodologies that oftentimes contradict each other.

This leads to a very awesome conglomeration of diverse ideas that produce meaningful discussions in forums as well as a more eclectic world where different styles of seduction suit different types of people in varying manners.

This also leads to, however, a lot of guys using methods and techniques that just don’t work for them… and some very hilarious situations where a lot of so-called PUAs constantly make the same mistakes over and over again!

A lot of guys who are in the process of learning pickup make some very common mistakes over and over, too. Here are six mistakes that you could be making when picking up women all the time:

6. “Negging” too much.

One of the most popular pickup methods teaches that you need to “neg” hot girls in order for them to feel attraction for you.

This usually entails giving a back-handed compliment or any sort of signal that you’re not actually interested in her like all those other pathetic, desperate boys trying to get in her pants are. You, on the other hand, need to stand out from the crowd somehow.

Why not play it cool by feigning disinterest?

The truth is, an appropriately timed neg can be very helpful from time to time. More often than not, however, you’ll see guys learning about negging and think that it’s the only way to “generate attraction.”

Their self-esteem is so low that they truly do not believe that women will like them for how they truly are, so they end up negging too much to the point of being just plain rude or even insulting.

A neg is useful especially when you want to maintain some sort of romantic tension by sending her “mixed signals,” but some PUAs often forget that they have to actually show some clear interest for this tension to build.

A lot of times you’ll see PUAs throwing negs at perfectly cordial girls over and over like an angst-ridden teenager throwing toilet paper rolls all over his math teacher’s lawn on Halloween. That math teacher was just doing her job, bro.

5. Too much cocky, not enough funny.

The first source I learned anything related to pickup from taught that I needed to be cocky yet funny at the same time. This particular pickup guru noticed that naturally attractive men tend to have a strong balance of cockiness and humor in their personalities (keyword: BALANCE).

Guys trying to learn this method tried adopting this unfamiliar trait of being both cocky and funny when they were previously failing in their relationships, probably because they were too modest and serious or something.

Well, here’s the problem that most guys trying to learn this “Cocky/Funny” technique run into: they’re just not funny. Or, if they actually are funny, they’re way too damn cocky and it makes you want to strangle them.

I went through this phase, too, and it was easy to tip the scales and be too cocky; I was bitter from all those previous years of rejection. So, being funny wasn’t exactly something that came naturally to me, but treating other people like crap was.

And that’s what being too cocky makes you. Crap.

4. Talking too much, touching too little.

Most pickup methods out there try to teach you the perfect things to say to women. They’ll tell you to develop your storytelling skills, embed subliminal messages in your sentences, indirectly brag about having certain attractive personality qualities, play verbal games involving bar bets and cold reads, and more.

While verbal game is a pickup fundamental, physical escalation is the most effective method of building attraction when picking up women.

Many guys do have trouble when it comes to making good conversation with women, and while it’s great that so many pickup methods teach these various ways of having fun conversations, in the end that’s all it is: conversation.

The problem is that conversation is not the crux of seduction. Touch is the key element of picking up women. Without touch, there is no seduction, no matter how verbally smooth you are. With so many pickup methods focusing so much on the “what to say” portion of seduction, the majority of pickup student miss out by talking too much and touching too little.

Pickup artists refer to the process of touch in seduction as “kino” or “kino escalation,” so it definitely is something that’s taught within the seduction community. However, it comes secondary to the verbal techniques when it should come first.

The fact that pickup teaches so much about “verbal game” and so little about kino escalation in comparison is a fundamental flaw that leads to a lot of guys wasting a lot of time trying to talk women into bed when they should be escalating in other ways instead.

3. Worrying about having “solid game.”

A lot of pickup artists will hear a story about how someone got laid without having to use any classic PUA techniques like “push-pull” or “tension loops” and discredit the seduction as not being “solid game.”

Just because the guy didn’t build comfort properly after the attraction phase, these particular PUAs think the fact that he had sex with that cute blonde girl in the club bathroom after only 30 minutes of dancing is somehow a fluke and there is nothing useful to be learned from that experience.

The truth is, something can be learned from any intimate encounters we have. None of these encounters should be discredited just because they don’t follow a linear model drawn up by some internet celebrity claiming to have the answers.

The entire concept of “solid game” is utter BS because it leads to us trying to perceive nature through the language of a man-made model… when we need to be conceptualizing our man-made models through the lessons revealed to us by nature.

That’s how we got our models in the first place, but to think of them as perfect is a fatal flaw of our imperfectly human egos.

2. Dehumanizing women.

Many men turn to the pickup arts seeking to avoid the pain of rejection while still enjoying the benefits of a healthy amount of sex. They’ve felt the pain of rejection before… and they’re bitter.

Sometimes these men will have deep-seeded misogyny; they just want to “conquer” women so that they can never have their hearts broken by women again.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I am not justifying this pattern of misogyny in any way and I recognize this revenge tactic as something very messed up. I hope you – the reader – can see that, too. It’s far too common to see so-called PUAs using women like practice targets as if seduction were a sport.

Real pickup artists respect women as partners by expressing an inherent and real connection through the medium of seduction… because seduction is art. Not a sport.

The ultimate purpose of seduction is to bring men and women together, but these hidden motivations based on fear and bitterness lead people in the opposite direction. Instead, be sure to stay motivated by your natural human desire to reach out and find the connection(s) that create and share a sense of wonder, beauty, and love.

1. Using ego gratification as motivation.

The number one mistake that guys learning pickup make is actually a pretty deep and rather complex issue.

Most of us, as we’re growing up, are deeply affected by social conditioning. We’re brainwashed to behave in certain ways that fit the culture we grow up in. For the most part, this is a good thing! Thanks to social conditioning, life within a community is a lot more bearable and less stressful for everyone overall.

Still, while we are fed good and helpful messages every day, we are also fed bad ones that restrict our seductive expressiveness. We grow up believing that gory violenceand guns are more socially acceptable and less shameful than deviant sex and dildos.

And, even if we have given this some serious thought and consciously realized that sex is undoubtedly morally superior to violence, we still automatically associate shame with the idea of getting caught watching pornography while it’s no big deal at all if we get caught playing a first-person shooter video game.

Most men in modern society also tend to grow up with other harmful messages that shove a sharp divide between the sexes, like the obsessive need to put beautiful women on a pedestal. These examples are just the tip of the iceberg.

Therefore, a very fundamental piece of our natural development into fully functional, sexual adult beings ends up being very underdeveloped. It’s like there’s this void in who we are, so some guys naturally gravitate toward subjects like pickup.

Somewhere along the way, though, you end up feeling like you have to protect yourself from the outside world because the outside world is a scary, judgmental place that tries to take sex away from you.

In your mind you separate yourself and your seductive side more and more from the outside world and foster the very thing that fuels your illusion of separation: your ego.

Society (the same “outside world” we separated ourselves from) never gave us validation. It never told us, “You are awesome because you are naturally sexual.”

We feel as if society took that away from us. So, many of us turn to desperately trying to validate ourselves when it comes to sex.

Women don’t have exactly the same problem that most men do because we faultily perceive through patriarchally constructed social norms that it is more difficult for men to get laid than it is for women.

We men want validation, and we think that we can finally accept ourselves for who we are if we can just convince everyone else first that we are sexually “successful.”

This mental trap is a huge problem because we end up accumulating a nerve-wrecking cognitive dissonance if we actually do end up “tricking” other people into giving us validation when we don’t even feel truly deserving of the validation in the first place; if we did then we would have validated ourselves already.

All of this manifests in the form of men trying to get laid in order to feel good aboutthemselves instead of getting laid just for the sake of getting laid and all of the natural pleasures associated with sex.

To put it simply, too many guys study and practice pickup because they want to possess seduction superpowers that feed their egos.

They motivate themselves in learning and practicing seduction with ego gratification when they should – like I said in the previous point – instead be motivated by a more natural and much simpler human desire.

Being motivated by a genuine, ego-free desire instead of the neediness that ego creates liberates you and makes you a far more effective seducer.

The path to fulfillment is riddled with illusions.