A Basic Look at Emotions
Men and women always believe the other person doesn’t know how they feel, and bla bla bla. Well the whole truth of the matter is men and women both experience emotion exactly the same.
Fear, anger, contempt, disgust, surprise, happiness, and sadness (Ekman’s 7 universal faces) are all experienced the same both physiologically and how you feel. There is no difference in how we feel during that emotion.
Pretty simple, when a man and woman experience anxiety they both feel the same, they both fidget, sweat, and show signs of discomfort. When we are afraid on a roller coaster our bodies both experience the rush the same (though some men may fake bravery to show bravado). We aren’t really that different from this perspective.
All Humans Decide based on Emotion
BOTH sexes make decision by way of emotion, people seem to have this thought that women make decisions based off of emotion but men don’t. This is false, some may argue I’m crazy (I’m sure this is a bit true as well) but we all make decisions off of how we feel. Let me put it this way when you buy a new car do you buy it because it makes you feel good or bad? Do you decide to buy a car because it feels good (right)? Or is it off a cold hard fact decision (right down to one having 2 less miles on it)? The answer is you buy this car because it “feels” right. A qb in the NFL throws the ball to where it feels right and when it feels right. A baseball player swings at the baseball when it feels right. We all make decisions off of what feels right.
The real difference in our emotion is what motivates us to have some of these emotions, I am not talking about our being terrified when we go sky diving I’m talking about our day to day moments. She looks at a car and the color makes her feel a certain way. A man walks up and reads the horse power, torque, and gas mileage and this makes him feel good. None the less they make decisions based on how they feel.
Her decision comes based off the color, look, and perceived value, how the diamond makes her feel is the real value of it not the financial value(like with guys). He feels good because of the actual value of the diamond.
The best thing about women when it comes to verbal seduction is they can feel by way of words, they can experience the world through words. A woman loves communication she experiences a lot of this world by talking about and listening to experiences. Listening to you describe something with her favorite color helps her experience and like it. Here are some major differences between men and women when it comes to emotion and communication.
– A huge difference between men and women is the fact that they have more links between their right and left brain hemisphere.
– The links between both sides of the brain on women means both the analytical and emotion get intertwined more often for women.
– When women communicate they use more of their brain (they have more links throughout their brain), when men communicate it’s from a more centralized area.
– Women understand more words than men but men use more words (incorrectly as well guys).
– Women value words far more than men do (guess this isn’t news).
Understanding the Power of Communication in Seduction
This teaches us a lot right here, more specifically men just suck at communicating when you compare them. A woman can talk to another woman and go over 4 different topics in as many sentences and keep up, a man (me included) will sit there confused about how they just moved topics seamlessly and never needed to break stride to separate the topics. We settle up one topic, and then move on to the next.
If language means so much more to women we can understand why she loves a poet. A poet owns words that steal a woman’s mind and influence her imagination. Words are a powerful weapon when it comes to seduction. Learning to use words means learning to talk to her, instead of talking like a man learn to talk to the woman she is.
What I mean by this is you need to change from wording things like “go to the park and watch the sunset, it’s beautiful”.
You want to say things like:
“When you go to the park and sit down at sunset you can experience the beautiful orange and blue transient sky. It makes you feel warm inside, for me it brings back the feeling of seeing my first sunset when I was a kid every time. You remember how it was when you were a kid looking off at the sunset; it makes you wonder how much more exists out there.”
Sounds corny right? Not to a woman, she experiences these words as you say them. A woman values words like experience, wonder, imagine, beautiful, gorgeous, etc. These words aren’t just a description they are an experience. When you tell a woman she looks beautiful in the right way it is comforting, it brings on more and more feelings but you must tell her when she is ready to hear it. At the beginning of a conversation before attraction is built (especially if you lack confidence) maybe too early to tell a woman flat out she is beautiful. If however you have attraction and a connection (a part of my Big 3 on how to get laid), using a seductive language pattern where you whisper into her ear will get you very far quickly.
If you look at my use of words they constantly look to engulf woman (people really) in an experience. This is something I gained from reading persuasion books and what not but my speech pattern still requires some improvement. If you use words correctly during seduction you influence her imagination with orange, blue, sky, as well as being a kid. You influence what she imagines simply by telling her what to picture, what to imagine.
A poet has words like this:
A Special World
A special world for you and me
A special bond one cannot see
It wraps us up in its cocoon
And holds us fiercely in its womb.
Its fingers spread like fine spun gold
Gently nestling us to the fold
Like silken thread it holds us fast
Bonds like this are meant to last.
And though at times a thread may break
A new one forms in its wake
To bind us closer and keep us strong
In a special world, where we belong.
- Sheelagh Lennon –
Seductive language mirrors poetry (or vice versa?), a woman loves a poet because he seduces her mind. I’ve always loved poetry (my moniker and nick name is Poeticly Skuac), I’ve been published, but until recently when I started studying words more I didn’t realize how strong a language pattern I already had. My issue was more along the lines of when to use the language and how to hit “the sweet spot” more consistently because my diction is pretty good. I’m currently focusing on both more consistency and when to use seductive language in my own personal courtship process experiences.
What I’ve realized is that the language pattern throughout courtship naturally changes as the courtship process escalates, as that tension builds the language changes. What was once corny is now right. What was once over the top is absolutely needed. As our mind changes so changes the language pattern we use as well as the tone and speed of the conversation. You don’t tell a girl early in a conversation “I want to fuck the hell out of you and make you cum a dozen times”, however after tension is built, kissing, and hugging you can whisper that in a woman’s ear and drive her crazy. You must gauge the woman and this interaction to understand how strong of a language pattern you should bring on.
Some Basic NLP
There are 3 different main NLP systems that people experience the world through: visual, auditory, and kinesthetic. Though we also have olfactory (smell) and gustatory (taste) as well but the majority of our experiences are through one of those 3 systems (smells are known to link us to old memories and thus emotions though). When we hear someone talk we can see what they are saying and in effect know how they feel. If you paid close attention there, you can tell I appealed to all your NLP systems, I had you feel, see, and hear what I was saying. We all lean towards one system but can and do travel in and out of every system.
When you talk to someone in a visual system they will “see your point” or “see what you are saying”. They will talk about sight since that is the particular system they are in.
When you talk to someone who is in the auditory system they will “hear you” or “hear what you are saying.” They will talk about things from an auditory stand point.
When you deal with people in the kinesthetic system they will tell you how they “feel you” or “feel what you are saying.” They will tell you how things feel from a touch or emotional stand point.
In order to bond most with people or talk to them most you want to “speak their language” this means repeating their phrases or saying things like they would say it (hearing, seeing, and feeling).
How a Poet Talks
We know a poet talks with more use of powerful words that seem to paint pictures and influence the imagination. These words not only influence how we process our thoughts but also our emotions (especially with women who gain more from the emotion attached to the word, experience, or object).
Here is a quick poem I wrote on the Ocean:
My True Dream of my Love of the Ocean
I had a dream I was lost and wandering a familiar beach,
I felt the sand between my toes,
It reminded me of being a kid.
I remember the moment I fell in love with the ocean,
I remember glancing over the blue white wash layered ocean,
You could feel the sunlight’s warm reflection radiating off of the ocean on your skin.
I miss this feeling, the feeling brought on by the smell,
As you breathe in you feel that ocean breeze feeling your lungs with fresh taste,
You can feel the ocean breeze against your body as it fills you with peace.
I closed my eyes and felt the hypnotic pattern of ocean waves crash down,
You could hear it hit the beach,
As you could hear the wave’s crash you feel the sound resonate you into peace.
Every moment I think of that sand between my toes,
I feel that moment of falling in love with the ocean.
The taste, feel, smell, sound, and sight puts me at ease,
Even the thought of the peace of the ocean hypnotizes you into relaxation.
-Victor M Paz Jr
This is just something I wrote in about 10 minutes (so don’t judge me), it’s also been a minute since I’ve wrote a poem, but if you close your eyes and have someone read the poem to you it is an experience. You get to experience my dream and love for the ocean. This is how a woman is influenced by words, this is how she is captured mentally and subconsciously, by talking to her through the way we experience the world. Should you start a conversation like this? Well I suppose that has to do more with you and your personality, personally this language pattern is something I would prefer not to use until after attraction exists (though many men build attraction through NLP) and even some of a connection (NLP can help here once again).
My words take you through each of your NLP systems from hearing to seeing to feeling to tasting and smelling. You get to have a world constructed for you, a description of what you see just vague enough for you to have your own elements of your world and imagination. Poetry is a wonderful experience I love and hold it close to my heart so forgive me for rambling about it.
Talking Like a Poet
Let’s break down what I did in this poem:
When it comes to talking like a poet you want to start vague. I started by describing a moment of feeling that sand between my toes, this leads you down a path, this reminded you of something we all were, a kid. This lets you identify with me.
Then I talk about the time I fell in love with the ocean, this may remind someone of when they fell in love with a house, lake, vacation spot, activity, whatever. The word Love evokes a strong emotional reaction.
I painted the landscape of the ocean (blue layered with white wash), helped imagine it, how it looked. You help them imagine your dream leaving enough detail to start but not enough to overpower their own imagination.
I described the feeling brought on by the experience, we all know how good the warm sun feels.
I moved on to the smell of the ocean. We have a unique memory for smells, certain smell evoke and bring back strong emotional states, if you’ve been to the ocean this will bring you there again.
Asking you to breathe in and taste that ocean breeze. Again this is vague enough to help imagine but leaving enough for you to add in your own imagination and then telling you to feel that ocean breeze against your body to fill you with peace.
You get the idea of what I did by now. I got you to travel through each of your systems by creating a vague imaginative experience and then giving you enough to jump start your imagination into that experience. This is a difficult pattern to master and until recently I hadn’t realized I used it throughout poetry. In order for you to seduce a woman you need the same elements of both vagueness and words that bring on an emotion or how they feel. Describing a diamond and what it represents does a lot in the way of creating temporary feeling of having one.
“I remember that glistening Diamond reflecting light on my sister’s face, I could feel the joy she had when she looked at it. You could hear her voice crackle as she accepted the engagement ring with a glowing feeling the whole room experienced.”
The diamond really does represent love, forever, and every other tacky or corny thought you can think of for a lot of women. More specifically it creates a wonderful feeling by representing it for her at this moment it’s up to you to tap into this powerful weapon of seduction. This doesn’t work on random women, this works on women where some interest exists, you need her to listen and pay attention obviously.
An Exercise for talking like a Poet
The beauty of language and thinking like a poet is everything opens you up to a feeling or memory if you stop and allow it.
Go grab a piece of paper and try this out. Instead of eating an apple (or any food for that matter) take a bite and remember a moment where it seemed like the best thing ever and then describe it, from all aspects the sound of the bite, the taste, sight, smell, and how good that all made you feel.
Try to use these powerful words throughout your description (correctly or it won’t make but break the moment. Use a dictionary if you must.):
Balanced centeredness trust communication discovery love journey wonder understanding energy excitement passion learning growth peace serenity stillness freedom intensity recognition realization knowing being depth surrender desire
These words are courtesy of The Sexual Key by Fuentes, I left out a lot of them so that he can keep some of his words secret. I do highly recommend reading him if you desire a more seductive language pattern.
As for descriptive words once again here is a limited version of his words which are great:
Clear soft smooth hard rough warm silky cool gritty velvety red purple red green black golden amber sweet salty blurry loud faint rhythmic click buzzing humming fast slow harsh slick glittery transparent translucent opaque sticky gritty above below inside
Try and use these words as you talk about eating that apple or whatever food you decided on.
Now when it comes to seductive language this also means you are going to include more sexual terms or words that bring on sexual thoughts (again a limited list of Fuentes words):
Penetrating sucking exploding kissing tasting entering spreading wide spreading open thrusting coming moistening, getting hot
So as you switch to a more seductive language pattern you are going to move towards “how your mind has penetrated her and you can feel how good she feels.” Here is an example of using a simple bar cocktail:
“The outside of this glass is moist, it feels cool, it reminds me of a hot day where you could feel the warm sun getting you hot. You could feel the sun rays entering your skin. When you went to take a drink you could feel your moist lips cool you down because you are so hot.”
Again this is just on the spot here so don’t get upset if it isn’t a perfect language pattern but this adds in layers of subconscious links to sex without ever really mentioning it. You may not be able to do this easily just like learning to ride a bike it takes time but then accelerates with crashes along the way. When you get to a point where you have her caught in your words and experiencing them you merely start sneaking in sexual words, even pausing on them for a moment then moving on. She’ll pick it up subconsciously and begin to enjoy your company immensely and have her mind shifted towards sex.
Summing it Up
This isn’t easy and dozens and dozens entire books have been written on the subject of NLP (the basis for seductive language) and hypnosis. Many men have spent several years mastering this stuff, it’s not as if you wake up one day and are amazing at it (there will always be an exceptional few). Learning to talk for women and in a way women will enjoy takes time and failure, so expect it, but realize most success followed failure or is doomed to experience it at one point.
I hope you have realized that it’s best to talk to women in their own language and how to talk to people in general really, yes these language patterns work on everyone but women are far more susceptible to this language then men (since communication holds a far more special place in their heart).
Peace and Love,