Look her in the Eyes – Why to Make Eye Contact

Attractive women can be intimidating for plenty of men, so intimidating that they are terrified to approach women. Other times you had the balls to walk up to the woman, and say something like “Umm, uh, I think you are really beautiful.”  Your eyes on her toes, while you tuck your head into your shoulders like turtle retracting into a shell, there is no confidence in your body language, then she looks at you and dismisses you by rolling her eyes. Finally you had the balls to roll up to that fly dame and now she looks at you like get out of my face. It is heart breaking, the tiny amount of confidence you had now ruined by the 2-3 times you approached a woman and her cold as fuck reaction(by the way rejection happens to all of us, get over it).

So what could you have differently? Well obviously your body language sucked, your “umm, uh” makes you one of dozens of other men who approached her with the same “you are better than me body language.” Your direct “You are really beautiful” just gave her all the power and your belief in yourself shined through.

You placed her above you and she agreed.

The biggest thing you could have done body language wise is Eye Contact.

This is one of the most important things in human existence, humans have unique eyes, we are the only animal to have whites in our eyes surrounding our pupils. This allows us to see what somebody is looking at. Our face often helps frame what our eyes are telling us, a smile makes them look happy (feel happy too), eye brows pulled down and together makes us appear angry (feel angry as well). Eye contact communicates so much, our confidence level, our emotion, where our eyes look, and if you learn to gaze into someone else’s eyes so much more.

When we look at anything intimidating we tend to make eye contact and look down, this is a sign of submission. If you were to look at a dominant man, make strong eye contact and he looks down before you he submitted before you. This is one of the reasons why you can always tell the most dominant man in the room, everyone they make eye contact looks down before they do.

It’s important to maintain strong eye contact with every attractive woman until she looks away not you. This is very important to showing confidence, a confident man may very well be nonthreatening (show submissive body language) but do not look down before she does. You can look away, if you are uncomfortable making eye contact but I recommend just adding a smile for her and your comfort rather than looking down. Look to the side or up; don’t move your eyes down.

An attractive woman will in return look down or away, looking down is a sign of attraction the away is not a sign of attraction. A good example was I was in this training class for my work (I’m a manager), this gorgeous woman repeatedly made eye contact. With my strong eye contact she would look down, showing her attraction. This happened during the course of a 6 and 1/2 hour class easily over 30 times, that is really not that often 5 times an hour which means I really think it was like 70 or 80 times. She would do this about every 5-10 minutes, the first couple of hours it felt like every time I looked at her.

Now her repetition was one sign of her attraction, her look down was another sign of attraction. There were preens added to her eye contact to confirm it, when she stood up she would straighten her clothes when she looked over she would stroke or adjust her hair. Other times she would flick her hair.

It is important to realize my response to her was strong repeated eye contact. I wouldn’t have noticed or received continued attraction without my strong eye contact. In order to maintain interest and build sexual tension I would not smile later in the class, not look unfriendly, but look at her and watch her look down. My eye contact with her was building tension but my other behaviors in the class had already made me attractive (my body language showed confidence, intelligence, charisma, and presence).

When it comes to attractive women you stand out just by making eye contact, because an attractive woman is intimidating they tend to be used to having men avoid their eyes and look down (submissive behavior). You making eye contact with them immediately ups your value, your confidence in not avoiding her eye contact also helps up your value so do not avoid eye contact.

Remember when making eye contact you can show some submissive body language but your overall frame should show confidence from how high you hold the top of your head down to your toes. If you just go around having fun, with good body language, and make eye contact you will receive so many more looks than you do now. Everywhere you go make eye contact and smile at people, you’ll be surprised the reaction you get everywhere you go. Note: Click Here for the playlist of my Alpha Body Language series if you don’t know what confident body language is.

Peace and Love

Vic