You can build a connection with just about anyone, the reason I say just about anyone is some people you just won’t get along with here and there. I’m not some man that is going to lie to you and tell you that you can connect with anyone the honest truth is there is always going to be someone you won’t. There are douche bags out there and it’s just not going to happen in some cases. There is always going to be some female asshole that is just how it is. I will admit these tactics will work on any person(not specific to females) so the title maybe misleading.
You’d be surprised how good you can get with connecting with a woman. The simplest lesson a man will ever need to learn is listening builds a connection, talking builds attraction (or ruins it), yes there are certain things you say to help build a connection but for the most part that is when you are building comfort and attraction so they will open up to you. This goes for building a sexual attraction and nonsexual attraction (friendship) alike.
Caution: Some of these things can be considered over-responsive if you use them to soon, it’s important that you use every tool at the right moment or the perfect tool does a horrible job at the wrong time. If you start with too strong you can become CREEPY.
Experiences
The reason that listening is so important when it comes to building a connection is when we tell stories we re-experience them. The easiest way to build a connection with anyone is to share an experience. The easiest way to share an experience is to talk about one. That doesn’t mean you can’t just go have some experiences with women, after all an experience is as simple as inside joke based on an observation or small humiliating moment is an experience that you can capitalize on(even saying the wrong thing).
You can take a woman on a walk outside to have a talk at a club, you can walk to the next location (take her comfort in her shoes into consideration). Going to play at the park can be a positive experience helping build a connection. Experiences are everywhere just catch them and enjoy them during the moment.
Eye Contact
In order to build attraction and a connection you need to maintain strong CONFIDENT eye contact. This means that you should look away here and there so you don’t become over responsive but you shouldn’t look down but instead away. The eye contact should also fit the intensity of the conversation to much eye contact and you could come across as creepy.
Note: Pay close attention to what direction your torso faces when you make eye contact. The more direct your torso is when you are making eye contact the stronger a signal you are sending. When you touch while you make eye contact it is far more intimate so keep this in mind while you touch. Also the closer you are the more intimate eye contact feels. Be careful that you aren’t over-responsive.
Intimate Gaze
The Intimate gaze is one of my favorite nonverbal “moves” to make. It is relatively simple and helps build sexual tension making the kiss nearly unavoidable. It is simple eye to eye to lips, repeat.I have seen it written as a social gaze, but I don’t look men in the lips when I talk to them, it feels far to intimate to me.
Note: A similar Gaze called the business gaze can be used for professional relationships, eye to eye to hairline, repeat.
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