When it comes to courtship every woman is different. It is very important to realize each woman has their own personal response curve and even her response curve changes with her mood. It’s important to continue the courtship process without making her uncomfortable or the attraction can die and you turn into creepy or clingy.
So how do you tell a woman’s response curve? You listen to what her body language is showing you. She is telling you exactly how she feels about you. Every woman is telling you something. She is saying I’m comfortable, I’m not comfortable. I’m attracted, I’m not attracted. I’m attracted but not comfortable enough. I’m not attracted but comfortable. I’m attracted and I’m comfortable enough. It is up to you to know which message she is sending and escalate the courtship process comfortably.
The secret to escalation with women isn’t about forcing yourself on them, it’s about responding to her at her pace. Women are comfortable moving much faster than you realize. How fast a woman offers touch a lot quicker than we (men) would like to believe. David Givens’ fourth phase before sex is touch and frankly you can’t escalate the courtship process without both accepting and reciprocating the touch she is offering.
In courtship most men think that we make the first move. We are the ones going over to them, from our perspective that is making the first move but really we are responding to them. Women send approach ques and it is our job to respond to them. It is our job to respond to them throughout the courtship process and move at a speed that they will accept and allow us to pursue that final phase, sex.
As attraction builds our bodies become like magnets drawn toward the thing we are most attracted to, we close the distance in many subtle ways. One way we show our attraction is through torso angle and torso lean. Our body faces what we are most attracted to, if her torso is facing you she is likely very attracted. Our torso also tells us whether they are retreating or attracted, if they are leaning in basically closing the distance they are attracted to you. Torso lean will also tell you how engaged in the conversation she is.
As this begins to happen you will subconsciously or should consciously start to mirror her to build rapport. It also puts you guys into sync which was Timothy Perper’s final phase before sex. It is always good to mirror someone’s body language just to build rapport but when attraction is built it helps build a connection.
By this point she will likely be physically reaching out to you or showing you intent actions. When they do this they will likely be using illustrators, intent actions (hands reaching in your direction), or just outright touching you. You need to react by accepting her touch confidently, that means meeting her half way. If she reaches out you can reach out to touch her forearm, a nonthreatening acceptance of her escalation. If she is offering her hand you can reach out and grab her hand, really you are just accepting her touch.
Escalation will change at floor level as well, your guys’ feet will begin to come closer and in some cases even touch. If you guys are sitting across from each other you may start “playing footsie” flirting with your feet touching. If you are standing your feet will start to scoot closer. The feet are used on a very subconscious level you don’t think about walking or running, you just do it. If you are moving your feet closer to someone you are very comfortable with them. When their feet move closer it is sometimes ok to move your feet forward and other times it isn’t. It is usually best to add touch once your feet meet in the intimate zone (18 inches to touch); a foot moving closer is often times an intent action.
I went over specifics in responding to a woman at her response rate but they are just really examples of what happens throughout the courtship process. Even if she isn’t offering touch it doesn’t mean she isn’t willing to accept your escalation. It does however mean she isn’t as comfortable “making the first move.” You should pay attention to whether she is comfortable with your escalation, with you closing the distance, touching, or moving touch to more erotic areas on her body. If you are the responsive man and respond at her pace the courtship process will be easy and comfortable for the both of you. You will receive very little resistance and when you do you merely need to add more comfort and/or sexual tension for an easy path to completing the courtship process to sex.
This isan OLD video so the quality is lacking but content is golden.
“You should pay attention to whether she is comfortable with your escalation, with you closing the distance, touching, or moving touch to more erotic areas on her body.”
There is a lot to be said about communicating consent and keeping time with what your partner wants. Body language only goes so far when alcohol is involved.
Nothing gets me wetter than the build up of sex through banter and flirting. A man must be able to fuck my mind first before he can fuck anything else. A man that can make me laugh…. is an absolute wet dream. There are so many ways a man can say he wants to fuck you other than just saying “U want 2 Fuck?’. Great piece!
Posted by snarkysnatch | 15/03/2012, 7:22 pmI’m quite tickled by you Snatch! I didn’t think I’d make the list of things to read in your busy weblebrity life. Thanks so much for your addition and the compliment.
I have to say this account was initially started for guys asking help about body language. I kind of gear it to them but I suppose I really need to branch out. Talking dirty is definitely a skill that needs to be acquired and used to build sexual tension, I love building tension.To the point where it is literally unavoidable to go without sex. Building attraction is the first step, building sexual tension is the next. I’d love to have a conversation with you. You could probably teach me a thing or two, and I’m already a lot better versed then most men.
A woman’s sexual satisfaction is completely reliant on the mind. I’ve studied rape victims and their issues with sex. Along with studies on women who had little or no sexual satisfaction. I wanted to learn to satisfy every women. Having an orgasm for a women is completely cerebral, that is why products that increase blood flow to a woman’s genitals don’t help with sexual appetite. I am planning to write about it soon, it is on my 25 article plus list. I’ve gotten a couple different women to the point where they were anchored to cum when I said certain statements. Could you imagine what it is like to cum on demand?
I understand how powerful the mind is and especially in regards to sex, it can release euphoria or it can release anguish, but at the end of the day it is all in your mind. Learning to have a healthy outlook on sex is vital to enjoying life and especially having a happy relationship.
I’m a gonna send you a message I think I got a great idea for another collaboration, some advice as well.
Posted by Show Your Mind | 16/03/2012, 4:42 am