The first thing you should do when you start pick up is decide what you want out of pick up…. A lot of people ask “where should I start? How should I begin pick up?” Then I proceed to ask them a few questions. First I let them know that inner game or self-confidence, self-esteem, and happiness is the basis of my style. I believe in be yourself and get the girl. That is how it should be. It shouldn’t be any other way.
You need to be good at being yourself that is how you eliminate neediness. You get rid of that needing validation, needing her attention, needing everyone else to like you, all these different “needs”. Inner game helps eliminate all of that. It helps you end limitations and expand potential to its true limit which is infinite. You are not finite you are infinite and that is something you need to understand right now.
Well one of the big steps for confidence is knowing what you want and going after it. What do I mean by this? Well my question is simple: What do you want out of pick up? Do you want to get married? You want a family? You want a girlfriend? You want to date several women? You want to sleep with 100s of women?
This seems like a basic question and in a lot of ways it is, but don’t make a decision on what you want based off what the pick-up community or your parents or society what you to want. This means deciding for yourself what you want out of pick-up and not letting anyone decide for you. So ask yourself, not your friends, parents, or the community. If you want love be honest with yourself and don’t brain wash yourself with other’s thoughts on what you should want.
The next thing I feel you should decide on is your type of woman: Short, tall, skinny, hair, curvaceous, green eyes, blue eyes, brown eyes, personality, sexual, etc. What is your type of woman… What do you want a woman to have from a physical, personality, and what kind of traits (intelligence, sense of humor, etc.) should she have?
Now why does this help? Well one reason is that confident people know what they want and go after it. So if you know what you want out of pick up that will help keep you directed and on a stable path to go for what you want. The second reason is when you know the type of woman you are after they begin to qualify for you, this puts you in a position of power. This means that rather than you trying out to see if you qualify for her, she’ll need to qualify for you. So remember your first two steps in pick up:
What do you want out of pick up?
What is your type of woman?
Besides that get to work on your inner game, even with strong confidence it isn’t bad to have more confidence, and you can never have too much self-esteem or happiness.
Peace and Love,
Another slide show for you here are 10 steps for becoming a pick up artist, this really is more than about just picking up women obviously, this is rooted off my original article on becoming one a long time ago but I felt it needed an update. If you have any questions or need help with any of the steps just email me, I’ll help you find some material or coach you some to get you on your path.
Note: I’m not a big pick up guy (irony right?) so this is more about becoming a master seducer, someone who is truly good with women not just someone who can snag a phone number or get laid. This is about TONS more than just being good with women, that is why it starts with you finding a self confidence program or resource. It’s about you being happy with you and your skills with women.
Peace and Love,