Not to long ago I got asked about day game… so here is a decent lil step by step guide.
Go for the Hook
Day game is pretty simple imo, you need a hook. That is the key to starting a conversation. Now because you need a hook you need the opening to be interesting to THEM, not just you, obviously your genuine interest also helps because it can be very contagious.
Good Body Language is very important (most important aspect of game is nonverbal) when you approach a girl you don’t want to be too dominant but you also don’t want to be too much of a bitch(if you know what I mean). You want to approach her with confident body language but also nonthreatening body language: open palms, neutral angle, let her see you coming, slightly turned head, etc. are all examples of nonthreatening body language.
Oh k my structure to getting laid is very simple: Build Attraction, Connection, and Sexual Tension.
Building attraction is something you do with your body language and how you take care of yourself, but also assuming you are attractive (mindset).
Connection is just your ability to build rapport with someone, the ability for you to talk to a woman and get her to admit something she would have never admit to even her best friend (as an example). This is the meat of Day game, this is how you get girls to call you, and want to meet up with you. There are fuck loads of attractive guys, but you building a connection makes you stand out. It gives you more value than the last cute guy in her world.
Sexual Tension is also very necessary, you need to keep it light and sexual, you should be putting out a sexual vibe. This is easier said than done but basically you can flirt with a woman and talk about her chest or ass in fun way, or other things.
When you open a girl there are several different types of openers really that I tend to use: Direct, Observational/Situational, compliments, and indirect….
Direct is pretty obvious and honestly is one of the most powerful ways to go about things. You walking up and stating your attraction without being needy is fucking awesome and works as long as you are an attractive guy with an attractive mindset.
Observational/Situational is my favorite way to go about things… This is also the most difficult to teach because a lot of what I do is read the woman’s body language and make a comment regarding her state/emotions. “Oh wow it’s not that cold.” Playfully joking about them being upset “Wow you look angry enough to drown a puppy…. what’s going on?” I combine wit and observation to use it to my advantage. You can also read the situation, and make an observation that is funny perhaps some girl is making an awful face and you notice it, you can share that observation with a funny statement with a girl. “Did you see her face when she was eating…. it was like a baby sucking a lemon… I thought she was going to cry or drool… either way something was coming out.” I like Observational/situational the most because it builds a connection the quickest and it allows you to share something early on such as an experience. You also have the ability to come in at the right energy as long as you read hers, which is why I tend to choose body language. Using observational also lets you have an inside joke for later when you contact her.
Compliments well you can read my How to compliment article here to learn to open with a compliment.
And of course you have indirect which works extremely well but you don’t hook them to start the conversation but as the interaction develops when you make a statement. A good example is your asking for directions…. asking for an opinion, or whatever else. This something I rarely do now a days.
How to Introduce yourself
Oh k this sounds funny but there is a way I love to introduce myself and it is mostly body language related but it is powerful, confident, and a lot of times comes across as charming (for me at least). Remember your overall body language should be CONFIDENT.
Step 1: Smile/Grin and Make Eye Contact (DO NOT BREAK EYE CONTACT)
Step 2: Turn head slightly(nonthreatening body language)
Step 3: Start your Verbal Introduction (I.E. “Hi I just felt obligated to introduce myself, I’m Wallie”)
Step 4: As you begin to introduce yourself extend your hand with the palm up but as it gets closer make it a regular hand vertical hand shake.
Step 5: When she extend her hand make her hand be over yours with your palm up(shows nonthreatening body language and vulnerability simultaneously)
Step 6: Hold on to her hand for a slightly longer touch and MAINTAIN EYE CONTACT until she looks down. You want it to linger at least 3 seconds of hand shake.
Energy Level – I agree with Skills360 thoughts that you want to come in at a slightly higher than their energy level… Enough to raise them up, but not more than they can handle. Similar to the concept of microcalibration, which is you coming in at her level but we are talking more from an energy stand point.
Your Two biggest Super Powers with Day Game
Remember your two biggest super powers when it comes to day game are making her smile/laugh and building a connection. Making a girl smile is a combination of body language and words.
The easiest way to get someone to smile at you is to smile at her when the interaction starts. A big key is letting your smile grow when you make eye contact but not just looking at her while your smiling, let her know your smile is for her and it will make her smile. Smiles are contagious people tend to smile at you when you smile at them (obviously there will always be exceptions).
Flirt and have fun with her, flirting is fun girls like to joke, smile, and laugh, so keep it light, but fun.
Building a Connection is simple but I have already wrote an article on it here.
End things on a High Note
End the interaction on a high note: Ask for her number while things are going well. Don’t wait for things to get stale, after things are going well just say something pretty basic but straight forward. “You know I’d love to continue this conversation later, I feel like there is something here (use body language to show in between us with your hands then pause and make eye contact with a smile, nod as she does for compliance then continue) but unfortunately I have to voyage off, let me get your number.” (Pull out your phone and have her add it to the phone) ASSUME THE CLOSE!
Without a Connection
Flakes will be a huge problem. You need a connection in day game, well imo you need one either way but without a connection it is even harder. I believe that it is the cornerstone of good game. If you can draw her in and connect with her than you should be good. It makes day 2s easier, phone game is infinitely easier if you do your groundwork before you ever get her number.
If you want more I can get more detailed but I think this is quite a bit as it is. Let me know, ask anything you’d like.
Peace and Love,
Another slide show for you here are 10 steps for becoming a pick up artist, this really is more than about just picking up women obviously, this is rooted off my original article on becoming one a long time ago but I felt it needed an update. If you have any questions or need help with any of the steps just email me, I’ll help you find some material or coach you some to get you on your path.
Note: I’m not a big pick up guy (irony right?) so this is more about becoming a master seducer, someone who is truly good with women not just someone who can snag a phone number or get laid. This is about TONS more than just being good with women, that is why it starts with you finding a self confidence program or resource. It’s about you being happy with you and your skills with women.
Peace and Love,